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SSaltzman87
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QOTD 8/30
Do you plan to take FI's last name, keep your maiden name, hyphenate or some other combination when you're married?
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Re: QOTD 8/30
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[QUOTE]I don't have a middle name so my current last name will become my middle name and I will use FIs last name. It's going to be hard to get use to, but I'm excited about it :)
Posted by Krikin22[/QUOTE]
Same :-)
Since my last name (Yack) would not make a suitable replaement for my middle name of Lousie I think I will hyphenate my last name. I wont care if people call me Mrs. Ramirez and I probably wont tell anyone in FI family I hyphenated it but it will atleast make me feel better. .
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 8/30 : Same :-)
Posted by jmozul01[/QUOTE]
Yay I thought I was the only one! No one believes me when I say I don't have a middle name lol
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My dad only had girls, and his brother doesn't have kids, so the family name ends with my sister and I. So that's one reason that I'm leaning to just dropping my middle name and taking FI's last name.
But my middle name comes from family on my mom's side, and it feels weird to not have the combination together.
Either way, his last name still feels weird when I say it with mine...
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[QUOTE] It was a really hard decision for me being a feminist and all but it really is what I want to do
Posted by ameliah19[/QUOTE]
My sister who's a hardcore feminist was actually mad at me for a little while for wanting to take FI's last name, lol. I'm taking FI's last name because I want to, not because I want to 'obey' him or anything like that-plus I don't have any attachment to my current last name and it just reminds me of horrible relatives on that side of the family.
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[QUOTE]I will be taking his last name! It's going to take some getting used to though! I'm not against it at all, but I ask FI often, "could YOU imagine having one name your whole life then all of a sudden changing it?" lol I'm surprised to see how many ladies are going to use their maiden name as their middle name. I didn't know it was that poplar. Mine just wouldn't work for that at all. lol
Posted by TogetherPerfect[/QUOTE]
My last name sounds nothing like a middle name, its French lol. But this was my Mom's intention when she didn't give me a middle name so I'm going with it. Her Mom did the same for her, but her maiden name actually sounds like a middle name!
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I also own my own business, and as such I have a lot of things tied to my maiden name, and it would be more intrusive on my life to change my name than it would for him to change his name, even just hyphenating. He suggested hyphenation, but I argued that if I should hyphenate than he should hyphenate as well. He didn't like that idea.
I have no problem being called Mrs. Wilkinson or being known as the Wilkinsons, but I'm not going to legally change my name. It would just be too much hassle, especially for something I don't want to do anyway.
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Taking FI's last name and keeping my middle name. Dropping maiden name completely.
I'm very traditional, so I never really considered NOT changing my last name upon marriage, but I am having mixed feelings about it though. My last name is extremely unique and my brother probably isn't going to have kids, so I really hate knowing our name will end with my generation... And FI's last name is super common, so I'm just gonna be one of many soon. :-/
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 8/30 : My sister who's a hardcore feminist was actually mad at me for a little while for wanting to take FI's last name, lol. I'm taking FI's last name because I want to, not because I want to 'obey' him or anything like that-plus I don't have any attachment to my current last name and it just reminds me of horrible relatives on that side of the family.
Posted by SSaltzman87[/QUOTE]
<div>I don't neccessarily think it's an obeying thing but it is pretty sexist for the women to have to change her name and for the guy to not even have to consider changing his. Granted I will be doing it but that is because I choose to do it. FI and I were considering just picking a last name together and changing our last name to that since that seems like the only other fair way to do it besides each person keeping their individual names but the more I thought about it the more I wanted to change my name. It just was a long hard decision for me lol. </div>
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