Parents included into ceremony

edevlin23 · August 2010

My parents will be married for 32 years next summer when I am getting married- I'd like to have them included in our ceremony to reaffirm their love. I don't think I'd like a full on vow renewal, just something simple and sweet. Any suggestions?

2dBride · August 2010

My parents' 25th anniversary was the day before my first wedding. We just did an announcement at the rehearsal dinner.

bethsmiles · August 2010

I think doing something at the rehearsal dinner or the reception would be much more appropriate. The ceremony is all about you and your FI. I think the PPs had good suggestions.

Pirata13 · August 2010

I agree. Keep it to the rehearsal or reception. During our RD we gave out our gifts and thanked everyone for all of their help, love and support. You could always kind of "toast" your parents at the RD or I really like playing "their song" at the reception. And having the dj dedicate it to them. Your parents will very likely have a 25th Anniversary celebration in 2 years. Keep your day focused on you and your new husband!

Pirata13 · August 2010

oops just saw I inverted the numbers and it's 32 not 23. Regardless, keep the focus on yourselves. My parents are married 42 years come October, and the only time it was mentioned was when I wrote out their card and thanked them for being a wonderful example of marriage. I never would have thought to include anything in the ceremony, RD or reception, and I think they would have been uncomfortable with that.

trix1223 · August 2010

I think, as do the others, that this is much better done at the RD if at all. Two of my three children were married within days of our anniversaries: we now have 7/9, 7/11 and 7/15 anniversaries in our family. (I have told jokingly told youngest DD that when the time comes for her to get married, it has to be on 7/13 or it's a deal breaker.)

But my concern is highlighting your parents during the ceremony at the expense of your FILs. If they also have a long marriage, then it seems unfair to focus on only one set of parents. And if they did not have a long marriage, then it may come across as rubbing their face in the fact that your parents have been married for 32 years and they're divorced.

The wedding should be about you and your FI. Give your parents a letter on wedding day thanking them for being such wonderful role models for a successful marriage. That will mean more to them than anything else you might give them.

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