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How did you introduce the in-laws?

sharstinsharstin
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So, although FI and I have been together for a while, our families have never really met.  FI’s parents are planning to come down for a visit in a couple of weekends, and I was thinking it would be a good opportunity to get everyone together for the first time.  We were planning to cook dinner for everyone (including lost of wine) at our place.  Good/bad idea?  How did you introduce the parents?  Was it awkward?  Not sure why, but I’m a little nervous about this :/

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  • DoubleASDoubleAS
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    edited December 2011
    So random, this was just on my month board too!  Fi and I were together for 2 years and living together for 1 year when we decided it was time.  We had them over for cake and coffee.  I think introducing them at your place is a great idea.  You never know, you may be lucky and they will love eachother! 
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  • kristen8040kristen8040 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ours met at our housewarming party before we were engaged. I wish it had been a bit more intimate, oh well. I think your plan is a god idea otherwise you might have an awkward fight over the check if ou went out for dinner.
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  • JoBell123JoBell123
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    edited December 2011
    I think having them over for dinner is a great idea.  We all met for brunch a few months before we got engaged (a few weeks after we seriously started talking marriage).
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  • shoebieshoebie member
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    edited December 2011
    A family party at my house dinner sounds like a great idea!
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  • buttrflyahbuttrflyah member
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    edited December 2011
    Same thing happened to us!  We had been dating almost 5 years, werent engaged yet and our parents STILL hadn't met.  We planned on the big day being Xmas at FI's parents.  I was TERRIFED.  I was so worried my parents wouldnt get his parent's humor... my dad would try to talk politics... someone would get too drunk, etc.  But honestly it was perfect.  Everyone got along great, it was never awkward.  A few drinks definitely helped :)  Good luck and keep us updated!
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  • TripleJTobeTripleJTobe
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    edited December 2011

    I don't have "in-laws" in the typical sense. My fiances parents are both deceased, however we did have a family get together to celebrate our engagement. We'd been together for 6 years at that point and our families still hadn't met lol  We ended up all going out to dinner together and it was a great time. Our families live about an hour away from each other, but now they get together for holidays and all get along extremely well.

    I think doing a get together for dinner is a great idea b/c it's relaxed, eating, drinking, stories etc.. 
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  • LissyM83LissyM83 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ours met at dinner. My family takes me out for my birthday every year so one year I invited my FIL's to join us (except they weren't my FIL's yet)Laughing
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  • GiGiV2012GiGiV2012 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow..I guess I'm a lot different.

    FI and I were dating for 6 months and leaving for a trip to Vegas. It happened to also be my birthday weekend so we decided to go out for a family birthday dinner before we left and both sets of parents met then.

    Personally, I would have gone crazy if our parents would not have met.

    We now spend every Thanksgiving together and we go out every few months or so for get togethers. I'm glad my in laws and my parents get along well.
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  • alykat216alykat216
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    edited December 2011

    I had one of those parties at my house where people buy home stuff so I invited my MIL (we were only dating at the time H was back in Iraq at this point).  So our moms met then.  Once H was home from deployment we had both sets of parents over to my apartment.  It went great, it was nice to be just us, and yes I had lots of wine on hand too. LOL  I think our parents were just so happy that we were happy the rest just fell into place.  Good Luck!

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  • rlavachrlavach member
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    edited December 2011
    I have an awkward situation because my FI's parents live in another country, so our parents won't meet until his parents fly in, about 1-2 weeks before we get married. Oh, and they don't speak English! It's ok, hugs & smiles are universal :)

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  • sgdc2011sgdc2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    Our parents met at our college graduation about 2 years into dating.  We then went out to dinner together... it was a little awkward.  They get along fine, but they will never be friends to go out together on their own.
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  • mariasemail86mariasemail86
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    edited December 2011

    My story on how they met is funny.  My brother and my dad happen to be at the recycling center in town at the same town my fiance and his dad were. So my dad met his dad. Than my mom dropped me off at his house one day and she came out side to meet my mom. Soo our dads met and our moms met before everyone formally met. After we got engaged my fiance and his fam invited me and my fam out to a nice restaurant for dinner where my parents, his siblings and grandparents all met. The rest of our families met at our engagement party which was held at my house.

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