invitation wording - one set of parents helping to pay

Re: invitation wording - one set of parents helping to pay

• cvl105

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  Is it tacky to do
  
  Mr. and Mrs.
  together with their daughter and future son-in-law
  me
  and
  FI
  son of...
  
  I think that's weird.  I would just put your parents as the hosts if you don't want to put together with their parents...
  
  Or maybe something like Together with the Bride's parents, Jane and John invite you etc

  ~Chelsea~
  
  
  

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• Just Jen

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  Ugh, I had a huge rant about this a few weeks back..
  
  I think its terrible when people feel the need to show who's paying on the invites. It's NO ONE's business. I would say just do the first one and don't worry about it. I mean, do you really need everyone to KNOW you're paying?
  

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• jchristel member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  I think it all depends on your relationship, but from what you said, 

  
  

  Mr. and Mrs.
  request the honor of your presence 

  at the marriage of their daughter
  me 
  to 
  FI
  son of ...

  
  

  seems to be the best option.  Is it bad if your parents get all of the "credit" for hosting?  

  

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• Tara2316

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  I would just use the first one. The second option sounds really awkward.

  
  
  Tara & Jose 10.17.10
  

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• Danes983 member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  I would just do the old school traditional way.
  
  Jane and John Smith
  request the honor of your presence for the wedding of
  Bride Smith
  to Groom Blah
  
  Thats it. None of the grooms names.

  
  

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• mbcdefg member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  The invites don't indicate who is paying. They indiciate who is HOSTING, which means the people who are making the arrangements and taking care of the guests. Your wedding invitation should not be used as a, "Hey, here's who paid for your dinner!" commentary.
  
  We put "Together with their parents" even though we're paying for the bulk of it, mainly to keep the invite less wordy. My parents contributed a portion, and his dad isn't in a position where he can help out financially. Had we decided to list our parents' names, we would've included his dad's name even though he didn't pay for anything.
  
  I would suggest that your FI talk to his folks and see what they want. IMO it'd be really unnecessary to leave them off the invite simply to show that your parents are paying and they are not. But they may be O.K. with not being on the invite because "traditionally" the invite is issued from the bride's parents.
  
  Are you doing a separate reception card? if so, maybe a compromise would be:
  
  Wedding Invite:
  Lburke Anne Bride
  daughter of Mr. and Mrs. John Bride
  and
  FI Henry Groom
  son of Mr. and Mrs. Harold Groom
  request the pleaseure of your company
  as they exchange marriage vows
  etc.
  
  Reception card:
  Mr. and Mrs. John Bride
  cordinally invite you to a reception
  honoring the new
  Mr. and Mrs. FI and LBurke Groom
  time, location
  
  Rehearsal dinner card:
  Mr. and Mrs. Harold Groom
  cordially invite you to a rehearsal dinner
  on the eve of the marriage of
  Lburke Bride and FI Groom
  date, time, place
  

  

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• pinknoseleather

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  We issued the invitation from my parents, did not list "son of" and did not bother to indicate in any way that we and my parents were all contributing to the wedding, but it's all a matter of personal taste.
  

  
  

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• felicia220 member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  My parents are hosting the whole wedding and my FMIL is hosting the rehearsal dinner.  I decided to put 

  
  

  Mr. and Mrs. (MOM and DAD) & Mrs. (FMIL) Requests your presence at the marriage of their children

  Me

  to

  FI

  
  

  We decided that we didn't care who people thought were paying for it, we wanted to acknowledge both sets of parents.  With that being said, I understand why you want people to know you are paying for the wedding as well.  And I think that  

  Mr. and Mrs.
  together with their daughter and future son-in-law
  me 
  and 
  FI
  son of...

  
  

  Works well for your situation, and in no way is tacky.  But I do think you need to put his parents names on the invite, it would be weird if they weren't on it and may make them feel bad.  Its the right thing to do.  

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• felicia220 member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  And FYI traditional, whomever is hosting the Wedding is paying the bill.  

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• uppereastgirl member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://northjersey.weddings.com/Sites/weddings/Pages/main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_invitation-wording-one-set-of-parents-helping-pay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:ff58964a-52d5-49de-8d0c-cb8893f5448aPost:2ae55d68-fa21-4eed-9be5-5db883d07ed4">Re: invitation wording - one set of parents helping to pay</a>:
  [QUOTE]And FYI traditional, whomever is hosting the Wedding is paying the bill.  
  Posted by felicia220[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Nope!  Traditionally the bride's parents are hosts (of course, traditionally they're also the ones who foot the bill).  </div><div><span style="color:#000000;font-family:Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:13px;line-height:normal;-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing:2px;-webkit-border-vertical-spacing:2px;" class="Apple-style-span"><a href="http://tinyurl.com/2ajfu7" rel="nofollow">http://tinyurl.com/2ajfu7</a></span></div><div><font face="Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size="3" class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000"><span style="font-size:13px;line-height:normal;-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing:2px;-webkit-border-vertical-spacing:2px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-family:Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;" class="Apple-style-span"><a href="http://tinyurl.com/yhx5v6p" rel="nofollow">http://tinyurl.com/yhx5v6p</a> (see last paragraph)</span></span></font></div><div><font face="Verdana, Geneva, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif" size="3" class="Apple-style-span" color="#000000"><span style="font-size:13px;line-height:normal;-webkit-border-horizontal-spacing:2px;-webkit-border-vertical-spacing:2px;" class="Apple-style-span"><strong>
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  </div><div>We did Mr. & Mrs. Myparents request the honour blah blah blah Victoria & John son of Mr. & Mrs. Hisparents.  "Son of" does not at all imply hosting/paying etc. -- it is just a shout out that you can take or leave.  </div><div>
  </div><div>I agree with JustJen -- the whole world doesn't need to know the particulars of the financials of the wedding.  It is more complicated where both sets of parents are chipping in, but where only your parents and you guys are paying, I'd just leave it as the tradition goes.</div>

  

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• leah2b member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  We are not listing parents but we are fully paying for (and thus hostiing) our wedding on our own and we are a little bit older than average, so its seems appropriate for us.
  
  Not sure what the best route is in your situation.

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• felicia220 member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  Hosting and Paying for the wedding are the same thing.

  
  

  It's an eternal question: How will the wedding invitations be worded? As most newly engaged couples know, this can be a touchy subject because what's read between the lines is who's hosting (that is, paying for) the wedding. 

  
  

  Straight off the Knot website

  http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-invitations/articles/standard-wedding-invitation-wording-examples.aspx

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• ecg129

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  Personally, and this isn't even a paying thing - it is a HOSTING AND PAYING thing... FI's parents are very uninvolved, not just financially...

  So our invites are:

  Mr. and Mrs.   ----
  request the honor of your presence 

  at the marriage of their daughter
  me 
  to 
  FI

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• uppereastgirl member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddings.com/Sites/Weddings/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_invitation-wording-one-set-of-parents-helping-pay?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:ff58964a-52d5-49de-8d0c-cb8893f5448aPost:5b6a913e-d5fa-4cae-bbbf-b4794ed984e1">Re: invitation wording - one set of parents helping to pay</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hosting and Paying for the wedding are the same thing. It's an eternal question: How will the wedding invitations be worded? As most  newly engaged  couples know, this can be a touchy subject because what's read between the lines is who's hosting (that is, paying for) the wedding.  Straight off the Knot website <a href="http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-invitations/articles/standard-wedding-invitation-wording-examples.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-invitations/articles/standard-wedding-invitation-wording-examples.aspx</a>
  Posted by felicia220[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>The Knot does not always take a traditional approach to etiquette... they are much more modern/do what you like.  Also straight off the Knot:</div><div>
  </div><div><span style="color:#1f1f1f;font-size:12px;line-height:17px;" class="Apple-style-span"><h3 style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:3px;margin-left:0px;padding-top:2px;padding-right:3px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-weight:bold;font-style:inherit;font-size:12px;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:bottom;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;display:inline;color:#777bb1;line-height:12px;border-width:0px;" class="qaquestion qaleadletter">.</h3><div class="qaquestion" style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-weight:bold;font-style:inherit;font-size:12px;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;color:#777bb1;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;"><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-weight:inherit;font-style:inherit;font-size:12px;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;">The groom's parents are contributing a considerable amount of money toward our wedding (though nowhere near half). Is it proper to include his parents on the wedding invitations, i.e., "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and Mr. and Mrs. Tom Smith would like you to share in the marriage of their children..."?</p></div><p style="padding-top:2px;padding-right:3px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-weight:inherit;font-style:inherit;font-size:12px;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:bottom;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;display:inline;line-height:12px;border-width:0px;margin:0px;" class="qaleadletter">A.</p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-weight:inherit;font-style:inherit;font-size:12px;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;"> </p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-weight:inherit;font-style:inherit;font-size:12px;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;">Here's the funny thing about people's names on the invitations -- everyone <em style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">thinks</em> it signifies who's paying for the wedding, and a lot of the time, the parents listed <em style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">are</em>paying -- but the larger meaning is that they are <em style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">hosting</em> the reception. "Hosting" is a word with flexible meaning. Parents can be official hosts -- they planned the party, they invited the guests, they paid -- or honorary hosts. Maybe the couple paid for their own wedding, but still want to honor the bride's parents <em style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">and</em> the groom's parents on the invitation. Technically, all four parents can be listed on an invitation without putting a penny toward the wedding. (This usually isn't the case, of course.)</p><div style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-weight:inherit;font-style:inherit;font-size:12px;font-family:inherit;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;"><a href="http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-questions/wedding-invitation-questions/qa/grooms-parents-host.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-questions/wedding-invitation-questions/qa/grooms-parents-host.aspx</a></div></span></div><div>
  </div><div><span style="color:#1f1f1f;font-size:12px;line-height:17px;" class="Apple-style-span"><h3 style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:3px;margin-left:0px;padding-top:2px;padding-right:3px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:bottom;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;display:inline;color:#777bb1;line-height:12px;font-weight:bold;border-width:0px;" class="qaquestion qaleadletter">Q.</h3><div class="qaquestion" style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;color:#777bb1;font-weight:bold;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;"><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;">Is it true that the people whose names are on the invitations are the ones who paid for the wedding?</p></div><p style="padding-top:2px;padding-right:3px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:bottom;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;display:inline;line-height:12px;border-width:0px;margin:0px;" class="qaleadletter">A.</p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;"> </p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;">That's usually, but not necessarily, true. The people who send out the invitation -- that means the people who are "requesting the honor of your presence" -- are generally viewed as the wedding hosts. Usually, the couple's parents are the hosts, although sometimes the couple themselves or another relative fills the role. However, a couple might be paying for the entire wedding themselves but still choose to have their invitation issued by their parents as a way of honoring them. Since parents often do pay for the wedding, especially if the couple is under 30, the people whose names are on the invitations are usually the ones who paid for it. But this should not be assumed.</p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;"><span style="color:#4c402a;font-size:11px;line-height:14px;" class="Apple-style-span"><a href="http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-questions/wedding-invitation-questions/qa/invitation-wording-based-on-who-is-paying.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-questions/wedding-invitation-questions/qa/invitation-wording-based-on-who-is-paying.aspx</a></span></p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;"> </p><h3 style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:3px;margin-left:0px;padding-top:2px;padding-right:3px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:bottom;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;display:inline;color:#777bb1;line-height:12px;font-weight:bold;border-width:0px;" class="qaquestion qaleadletter">Q.</h3><div class="qaquestion" style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;color:#777bb1;font-weight:bold;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;"><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;">The groom's parents are contributing a considerable amount of money toward our wedding (though nowhere near half). Is it proper to include his parents on the wedding invitations, i.e., "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and Mr. and Mrs. Tom Smith would like you to share in the marriage of their children..."?</p></div><p style="padding-top:2px;padding-right:3px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:bottom;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;display:inline;line-height:12px;border-width:0px;margin:0px;" class="qaleadletter">A.</p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;"> </p><p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:16px;margin-left:0px;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;line-height:17px;border-width:0px;padding:0px;">Here's the funny thing about people's names on the invitations -- everyone <em style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">thinks</em> it signifies who's paying for the wedding, and a lot of the time, the parents listed <em style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">are</em>paying -- but the larger meaning is that they are <em style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">hosting</em> the reception. "Hosting" is a word with flexible meaning. Parents can be official hosts -- they planned the party, they invited the guests, they paid -- or honorary hosts. Maybe the couple paid for their own wedding, but still want to honor the bride's parents <em style="border-style:initial;border-color:initial;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;font-size:12px;vertical-align:baseline;background-image:initial;background-repeat:initial;background-attachment:initial;-webkit-background-clip:initial;-webkit-background-origin:initial;background-color:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">and</em> the groom's parents on the invitation. Technically, all four parents can be listed on an invitation without putting a penny toward the wedding. (This usually isn't the case, of course.)</p><div><a href="http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-questions/wedding-invitation-questions/qa/grooms-parents-host.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-questions/wedding-invitation-questions/qa/grooms-parents-host.aspx</a></div><p> </p></span></div>

  

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• felicia220 member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  I found a ton of things online, saying the same thing (That hosting and paying were the same and the traditional way) That is where the hosting came from.  

  
  

  I was simply saying that TRADITIONALLY, that is how is worded and why, The older generations will see it that way.  If the OP wants people to know that she was paying as well then she could include her name.  If you look at my original post, you will see that I said that I didn't care who people thought were paying for it.  But I am making that point that people will come to the conclusion that my parents and FMIL are paying together because of how I worded it.  Because, again, that is TRADITIONAL how it is done.

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• melissa82 member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  I have never looked at an invitation for information on who is paying for a wedding.
  
  And I think it's pretty crappy to purposely word your invitation with the intentions of informing guests exactly who did and did not pay and how much credit they should be receiving. Why?
  

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• lblumetti

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  We are in the same exact postion.....my parents are giving us a large portion, and FI and I are paying the rest.  FMIL is not able to contribute to the wedding financially, however, will be hosting the rehearsal dinner.
  
  In order to include everyone and not single anyone out, we are going to go with something along the lines below.  Haven't perfected this yet..so the wording is a bit awkward...and may make a few changes.
  
  If you are not going to go that route, I would still include the FMIL's name on the invite...like "son of XXX"
  
  

  Because you have shared in
  our lives
  by your friendship and love we,
  BRIDE
  and
  GROOM
  together with our parents,

  BRIDE'S PARENTS

  and

  GROOM'S MOTHER
  invite you to share
  the beginning of our new life
  together
  when we exchange marriage
  vows ....etc.
  

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