My wedding is 15 months away and I've already managed to hurt someone's feelings.
My mother hosted a very small engagement party for us last week. Mostly local friends and immediate family. The only OOT family we invited were my aunt and my cousin, who is my goddaughter and one of my bridesmaids. She lives with her mom (they live in MA) so it would have been awkward to invite her and not her mother. They couldn't come to the party, and yesterday my aunt posted a comment on Facebook apologizing for not being able to make it. My uncle (her brother), who is also my godfather, and also lives in MA, commented on her post saying "what engagement party????" I wrote him a private message, explaining that the party was very small and we didn't invite OOT family so they wouldn't feel obliged to make the trip to NJ, with the exception of my aunt and cousin who were invited because of the WP connection.
And also, we're planning to ask him to be a reader, but now I feel like he will think we are just trying to make it up to him, instead of the honor it is really intended to be. know that last bit is paranoid. But I'm feeling bad about this.
