Flammable Confessions

jessienjeremy · September 2010

I had an abortion about 6 yrs ago. I was in a abusive relationship and I was on the pill. Once I found out I didnt even tell him. I just went and got it done. No way would I bring a kid into that kind of situation and given the abuse I had between teh time I found out and the time I got it... I probably would have lost it anyway. I would never want a guy like that to father a kid.. let alone mine. I was only about 2 months. I honestly have no regret and hardly ever think about it. It didnt really bother me.. I think every womans situation is different... I will say it gave me strength to leave.. even if in the end it took a while. If people dont want women to have an abortion then instead of protesting aborion clinics.. why dont you protest the pharmacutical companies that charge $180 for the pill (yes thats what i pay and i have insurance) alot of women cant afford it.. if they want want to do something.. make BC free.. just a suggestion...

[Deleted User] · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : So for someone who is young, has no kids, and is gettings abortions, I really think that it comes down to they need to either be more educated about BC or still have a lot to learn about responsibility.
Posted by spechtholdn[/QUOTE]
let's also be realistic about sex ed in this country, and talk about bringing that into the 21st century.

then there's also availability of bc to poorer people.

i'd much rather people abort their unwanted fetii, especially if they're poor and would end up on welfare (if they're not already). this world is way too overpopulated as it is.

Wrkn925 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]That isn't the bunny's fault. That's the shitty driver's fault. I've dodged plenty of animals without damaging my car or anything else.
Posted by georgia_bride09[/QUOTE]

If the bunny is in the road, it's the bunny's fault.

If you're driving through a field and come across a bunny den, then you're a shitty driver.

jesibel14 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm on NuvaRing right now, and I no likey..
Posted by cupcakesfrosting[/QUOTE]

Cupcakes, what didn't you like about the ring? I'm curious since I felt the same way. I was on it for a few months and had the weirdest side effects, such as mood swings and odd eye problems like random blurred vision and watery eyes.

laladypoet · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : If the bunny is in the road, it's the bunny's fault. If you're driving through a field and come across a bunny den, then you're a shitty driver.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

yeah. the bunny put that road there. fuckin nature, always gettin in the way of progress.

cupcakesfrosting · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : Cupcakes, what didn't you like about the ring? I'm curious since I felt the same way. I was on it for a few months and had the weirdest side effects, such as mood swings and odd eye problems like random blurred vision and watery eyes.
Posted by jesibel14[/QUOTE]

It might be a little TMI.. Haha.. I'll PM you..

Unless anyone else, WANTS to know?

waltzingmatilda13 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : let's also be realistic about sex ed in this country, and talk about bringing that into the 21st century.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Hear hear!

Let's be honest, abstinence only education isn't going to work. Kids are curious and the fact that 11 and 12 year olds are having kids is just sad and should be a huge wake up call to everyone who thinks otherwise.

laladypoet · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : It might be a little TMI.. Haha.. I'll PM you.. Unless anyone else, WANTS to know?
Posted by cupcakesfrosting[/QUOTE]
does it feel like, um, you're moist a lot? cause I've heard that.

danieliza1127 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : Cupcakes, what didn't you like about the ring? I'm curious since I felt the same way. I was on it for a few months and had the weirdest side effects, such as mood swings and odd eye problems like random blurred vision and watery eyes.
Posted by jesibel14[/QUOTE]

That's interesting! I have a friend who is on the NuvaRing and she's had really weird eye problems too.

I don't know why I'm only chiming in on BC related stuff, bored I guess.

Also wkn, it's not like bunnies KNOW that they shouldn't go in the road. THEY ARE BUNNIES.

georgia_bride09 · September 2010

I've hit a bunny before too. He ran out RIGHT in front of me, and I didn't even have a chance to stop. Although he kept running (I think he maybe just jumped into my undercarriage as opposed to sustaining any tire damage), and I realized in my rear view mirror that he was being chased by a dog. So the timing on that whole thing actually worked out.

laladypoet · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : Hear hear! Let's be honest, abstinence only education isn't going to work. Kids are curious and<strong> the fact that 11 and 12 year olds are having kids is just sad</strong> and should be a huge wake up call to everyone who thinks otherwise.
Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry, that's just bad parenting.

squirrly · September 2010

Every method of chemical BC has some potential for side effects. There was a scare in the 70s/80s about IUDs, but I think it turned out to be just a specific type of IUD that had a manufacturing defect or something. I also think it's the most popular type of BC, world wide, but low on the popularity list in the US - not sure about Canada. Certainly it's a choice you should make with your doctor, but if you're not interested in having kids in the next 5 or 10 years, I'd certainly do the research and have the conversation.

I'd absolutely have gotten one once my doc approved it for me, except that then-FI and I knew we would want to TTC soon enough that it wouldn't be financially worthwhile to get it.

MattsPenguin · September 2010

I had weird eye problems when I switched pills. I thought that I had pink eye. Turns out that one of the possible side effects was "inability to wear contact lenses".

Switched back to my original pill.

[Deleted User] · September 2010

if i was in a coma, i'd shudder to think what would become of my upper lip hair.

Wrkn925 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]Wouldn't your dad WANT people to do damage to their cars so he would have business? Shitty drivers are his paycheck.
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]

No, he's a car guy, an enthusiast. Not a repairman.
He has an office job, and does retro mods on Camero's on the side.

laladypoet · September 2010

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[QUOTE]if i was in a coma, i'd shudder to think what would become of my upper lip hair.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]
I love how you always think outside the box :)

waltzingmatilda13 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : Cupcakes, what didn't you like about the ring? I'm curious since I felt the same way. I was on it for a few months and had the weirdest side effects, such as mood swings and odd eye problems like random blurred vision and watery eyes.
Posted by jesibel14[/QUOTE]

I always thought there was something wrong with my contacts, but now that you mention it I haven't had those problems since I stopped using it.

salt78 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : I hate it when people dodge animals in their cars. Scenario: Bunny runs in front of your car Option A: Kill a bunny. Option B: Dodge said bunny, take out three fenceposts, hit a tree, do $3k damage to property/vehicle, or even take out another car 'cause you just freakin' love all things fluffy! I've been told that a part of my heart is dark and cold. No, I was just raised by a car guy.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

<div>How does being raised by a "car guy" have anything to do with any of this?</div>

laladypoet · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : How does being raised by a "car guy" have anything to do with any of this?
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]
it means she's cool, man. or whatever.

jesibel14 · September 2010

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[QUOTE] If people dont want women to have an abortion then instead of protesting aborion clinics.. why dont you protest the pharmacutical companies that charge $180 for the pill (yes thats what i pay and i have insurance) alot of women cant afford it.. if they want want to do something.. make BC free.. just a suggestion...
Posted by jessienjeremy[/QUOTE]

Unfotunately a lot of those people who protest outside of clinics are religious zealots who are opposed to contraception. Though, I do agree that contraception should be more readily available.

Good for you for getting out of the abusive relationship!

cupcakesfrosting · September 2010

Well, that I was SUPER swollen all the time.. And I felt like I was going to scratch myself trying to get it out to, ahem, wash.. I couldn't hook my finger right.. I actually had to have FI help me get it out once time.. I used it for about 3 months. FI said, every now and then I was a horrid biitch. Hormones really fuuck me up though.. Like, bad.. I've never found a BC that I actually liked..

louisvillebride21 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : No, he's a car guy, an enthusiast. Not a repairman. He has an office job, and does retro mods on Camero's on the side.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

Woah, where in KY are you? My H is a huge car guy, just got a Camero a couple months ago. 02 LS1

zippityb · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : To give support. To show that we care and make an effort to still see him, even if he can't interact with us. The mom has asked friends to go visit him and talk to him. Per her, the doctors said that he may be able to know when and if people are there and that hearing familiar voices helps. If I was in a coma and woke up to find out most of my friends didn't visit me, I'd be pretty bummed. He's the one in a coma who will never walk again even if he does wake up. Using the "I don't want to see him since it would be too difficult" strikes me as selfish as he is far more worse off than those who may or may not visit him.
Posted by jesibel14[/QUOTE]

It may strike you as selfish, but not everybody has the same feelings about that kind of stuff. You don't know what causes people to dislike hospitals or seeing someone else suffer. People are not all wired the same and have not had all of the same experiences. I wouldn't want a loved one to be forced to come see me in the hospital if I was aware of it or not if it was going to cause that person a lot of grief. I'm not agoraphobic, but I sure as hell am not going to judge someone who is because I'm able to leave my house every day with no problem.

Celles · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : Hear hear<strong>! Let's be honest, abstinence only education isn't going to work. </strong>Kids are curious and the fact that 11 and 12 year olds are having kids is just sad and should be a huge wake up call to everyone who thinks otherwise.
Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]

I don't know what you're talking about. It works SO well in Alaska.

georgia_bride09 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : If the bunny is in the road, it's the bunny's fault. If you're driving through a field and come across a bunny den, then you're a shitty driver.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

Because a rabbit has the comprehension skills necessary to differentiate between where they won't get killed and where you, Elmer Fudd, will hit them with your car.

spechtholdn · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : let's also be realistic about sex ed in this country, and talk about bringing that into the 21st century. then there's also availability of bc to poorer people. i'd much rather people abort their unwanted fetii, especially if they're poor and would end up on welfare (if they're not already). this world is way too overpopulated as it is.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

If you are going to quote me, then quote the whole thing. I was talking about IUD's not being recommened in my area to younger women who have no kids. I never said that I didn't agree they should have abortions so they don't end up on welfare, as you make it seem by only quoting half of what I typed.

salt78 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : It may strike you as selfish, but not everybody has the same feelings about that kind of stuff. You don't know what causes people to dislike hospitals or seeing someone else suffer. People are not all wired the same and have not had all of the same experiences. I wouldn't want a loved one to be forced to come see me in the hospital if I was aware of it or not if it was going to cause that person a lot of grief. I'm not agoraphobic, but I sure as hell am not going to judge someone who is because I'm able to leave my house every day with no problem.
Posted by zippityb[/QUOTE]

<div>Agree.</div><div>I avoid hospitals as much as I can because I spent a lot of time in them when I was little. Sorry if that sounds unsupportive, but I would like to think that most of my friends' parents would understand that. </div>

eshaufle · September 2010

I got mad at my FI the other day for getting Starbucks 3 days in a row...and then went to Nordstrom's and dropped $500 on fall clothes.

My bad :-).

waltzingmatilda13 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : I don't know what you're talking about. It works SO well in Alaska.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

I actually had to google it to see what you were talking about, but whoa. I guess there's nothing better to do up there in the cold, huh?

salt78 · September 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Flammable Confessions : Woah, where in KY are you? My H is a huge car guy, just got a Camero a couple months ago. 02 LS1
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

<div>OMG. LVB. IS YOUR H HER DAD!?</div>

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