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Parents not attending wedding

Oh, where to start?

I haven't spoken to my dad in almost 4 months now, ever since I wanted to be independent and move out (and by telling him I wanted to do that, I got a, "F&*$ you" to my face, in front my my mother, who remained quiet); money to him is priority. He never gave my fiance a chance to get to know him. Ever. He tried separating us and even threatened his mother, whom I love so dearly and with whom I have a special relationship.
My mother, when I told her I was engaged, said, "I don't mean to discourage you, but if you don't get married in our church (meaning if my fiance didn't convert and become a heathen), then I don't think I can attend your wedding." This was after I told her I had a change of spiritual faith. After telling her I've been attending a Catholic church, she scoffed and said, "Ha, you really think God will listen to your prayers since you don't attend [our] church anymore?" And walked out.

She even told my 17-year old sister that if she's going to be a bridesmaid, she couldn't attend my wedding. Luckily for me, she wil be 18 by the time my wedding is here, AND she is my maid of honor. And she is on my side.

And that is the tip of the iceberg.

Thoughts?

Re: Parents not attending wedding

  • I'm not sure what advice or "thoughts" you want. Your parents sound like jerks.   Good luck with your wedding!
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_parents-not-attending-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:09b3cf25-fec9-47fe-a709-bc60401c1d04Post:86d8e458-0368-4572-9c4f-b6b261f69c6a">Re: Parents not attending wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Parents not attending wedding : How old are you?
    Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

    I am 23-years old and my fiance is 27. Everyone on his side loves me, and those on my side who have given my fiance the time of day completely adore him and support us. Money isn't a problem for us, we'll be paying for our own wedding of about 250 guests.
  • It sounds like they are out of your lives. Just send them an invitation if you would like them to come. They either will or they won't. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • This sounds like a really difficult situation for you. I don't know what I'd do if my mom didn't support my wedding. My fiance and I are having issues with his side of the family for the past month and it has been a nightmare. But what I've found is that it's these kind of challenges that make my relationship with my fiance that much better. My advice is be thankful you have such a wonderful fiance and future in laws to support you. Smile and have a wonderful wedding!
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