Att: Lurkers and Quiet Folk

MuppetFan · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_att-lurkers-and-quiet-folk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:809897fd-a3d6-429c-9e0e-4ce3b8e56846Post:4cbc795b-c82e-4664-a4de-24cbd30fcebd">Re: Att: Lurkers and Quiet Folk</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Att: Lurkers and Quiet Folk : Totally not to thread jack, but, I totally understand the public shame. It's a cross between pity, judgey, curiosity, sorrow, a probably a few other emotions that you feel coming off of others. If you want to chat or unsolicited advice or anything feel free to PM. You didn't do anything wrong! Keep repeating that.
Posted by rachelm13[/QUOTE]

Agreed. I was totally embarrassed for a long time that something I had invested so much time in and got my family involved with etc.. failed. But, I am thankful for the experience because it caused me to know what I needed and wanted to be happy, and I probably wouldn't be able to recognize what I have now as well and I'm very happy now.

shaylagirl · April 2013

I guess I'm a lurker/newbie.

I have a bevy of critters in the family (2 dogs, 3 cats, 2 horses and 1 leopard gecko). Started off my life doing banking, and in the past 3 months now work for the State of Texas in what is probably the largest "law firm" in the state as a 'legal secretary' for 2 different people. Talk about a mental shift! Learning 'legalese' is hard, but fun!

Been with the "The Man" for about a total of 2 years now. He's a total dork, but he and I balance one another out; I'm the non-planning, fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type, and he's rather stodgy and likes to over-plan crap.

He's been married before, this is my first.

His BM is his 11 year old son; my 15 year old will walk me down the aisle with my dad.
We're not having dancing at ALL at our reception (it's a lunch); so I get to avoid the dumb dollar dance, stupid choreographed first dance, line dances (which are popular in Texas. I am NOT doing the Cotton Eyed Joe or the "BullS*it" dance), or any other dumb dances!
He's DYING to have me ride out from the ceremony to the reception on the back of his Harley; I'm DYING to NOT so I don't fall off and, ya know, KILL myself.
My token nod to Harley is going to be the yellow garter (to match his bike) with the Harley emblem on it.

I -love- lurking on TK! Seriously, all of you regs crack me up!

courtski2004 · April 2013

It has been nice to see all the new folks around lately!
I've been around for a while, but with work being so busy lately I haven't been able to contribute much. I kept up with April FooleryGate nightly last week, and wow. I just don't have words.

J and I got married in June 2011, and had a fairly traditional wedding. I think the worst etiquette faux pas we committed was to not send an invite to a few people after they had received an STD. They were work colleagues (at the time STD's were sent) and between then and sending invites, I had been laid off and some folks were participating in some pretty demeaning (potentially career ruining) gossip after I no longer worked there. Our industry is very close knit, and they were spreading word to other companies that I was applying at which caused a whole lot of turmoil. They actually had the gall to ask J (who still worked at the company) about the wedding/see pictures and act like they hadn't done anything wrong. What should have been a 2 week or less stint of joblessness turned into 3 months thanks to their actions. Karma is a beetch, because once word (in the form of emails sent from their company account and a reference check from a company I interviewed at) got back to my previous Director of what they were spreading, they were promptly fired.

A small AW--yesterday, J was elected as the Vice President of the dart association that we are active in. So overwhelmingly proud of him!

amaryann210 · April 2013

I guess I'm pretty much a lurker, and I'm pretty new here, too. I'm getting married in October and had my venue and church booked before we got engaged. He proposed at Mardi Gras in New Orleans and even though I knew it was coming, he still managed to catch me off guard. He's a good one for surprises. We are both in our mid- to late-thirties, so our courtship hasn't been very long- we met at the beginning of June last year, so we'll only have known each other a year and a half by the time we get married. We are not living together before we get married, and are currently in the house-hunting process as well. We decided to pack a whole lot of stress into one year, because, hey, why not?

The biggest bump in the road so far is discovering my FMIL's craziness. Fortunately for me, the fiance is very good at sheilding me and we present a united front when she has a temper tantrum. She is currently threatening to not come to the wedding, but I have faith that things will turn around in the next 200 days.

We are NOT doing: cash bar, bouquet toss/garter toss, Chicken Dance, dollar dance, head table (just a sweetheart table), flowers at the reception, or fancy favors. Our favors are beads we brought back from Mardi Gras. It's not a theme, but there's just a touch of it here and there, as it's where we got engaged.

lyndsay782 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_att-lurkers-and-quiet-folk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:809897fd-a3d6-429c-9e0e-4ce3b8e56846Post:b352cae2-81e1-4f80-b0ab-300176c6d15e">Att: Lurkers and Quiet Folk</a>:
[QUOTE]Come out and share something about yourself and your wedding and one rude thing that won't make it into your wedding (creative response encouraged). I meant to put this on Etiquette for balanced randomness.
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I'm kind of a lurker, and I'm semi quiet... Can I play? </div><div>
</div><div>My FI and I have been together for 6+ years, and he propeosed in front of our entire church. He's a really private guy when it comes to his emotions, and that just shocked the heck out of me. I was seriously so stupified and speechless, that I didn't know what to say other than yes. My family has been, well mostly absent except when they want to try to talk me into calling the wedding off (not. gonna. happen.) because FI's not making 150k a year. </div><div>
</div><div>We have a cat, named Princess. She gets mad if her schedule is disrupted or if we come home with a box from Costco, and then get rid of it a week later, and has a strange facination with sleeping in FI's belts. She also likes Spaghetti sauce, and will eat butter pecan ice cream off your spoon if you don't put it in your mouth fast enough. </div><div>
</div><div>I will not have a dollar dance, honey fund or cash bar. In fact, we are having no bar instead. And no chicken dance, YMCA, or Congo. Not really rude, but I know that certain family members would try to sucker me into dancing it with them, and no one should have to do the chicken dance by force.
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</div><div>my fur-child... </div>

laylasaurus · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_att-lurkers-and-quiet-folk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:809897fd-a3d6-429c-9e0e-4ce3b8e56846Post:b17ca802-d912-4d6a-87e5-5c222a252437">Re: Att: Lurkers and Quiet Folk</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Att: Lurkers and Quiet Folk : I adopted a fat cat years ago, I loved him very much. His name was originally Bustopher Jones but we called him Fat Kitty... he was like a dog and he had a food addiction. What is your cat's name? Dollar Dances were big in the 80s and early 90s. I hadn't seen one since until December when I went to a wedding that had that and a game where they took more of your money rather deceitfully (Someone at the table, take out something bigger than a $10! Now play musical chairs and when the music stops, that person brings the money to the bride and the person who let their money be borrowed finds out it wasnt being "borrowed")
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

<div>He sounds cute. I like the fatness, it makes them extra adorable and ridiculous. So long as they don't get diabetes. Ours is named Moggy, though we also tend to call him Fatty rather often. The vet said he has an oral fixation so he thinks he needs to eat, or lick things, or chew things. He is ALWAYS licking us. I just came across this thing for cats with eating problems though; its this little ball that you put their food inside and as they bat it around it releases just a little bit at a time so it takes them longer to get all the food and more closey simiulates having to hunt and catch food. Did you ever use one of them? I had never heard of it but I'm going to order it and see if it helps.

Dollar dances sound kind of money-grabby to me. I'm surprised they are popular in places. I guess if the guests suggest doing it because they want to its okay, but for the bride and groom to ask it of their guests.. eh, I'd be off-put.

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bellaluna290 · April 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_att-lurkers-and-quiet-folk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:809897fd-a3d6-429c-9e0e-4ce3b8e56846Post:b352cae2-81e1-4f80-b0ab-300176c6d15e">Att: Lurkers and Quiet Folk</a>:
[QUOTE]Come out and share something about yourself and your wedding and one rude thing that won't make it into your wedding (creative response encouraged). I meant to put this on Etiquette for balanced randomness.
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]

I'm Tamara. I used to lurk over on SB before the ban-gate and censor-gate. I work in higher ed, but I have a Masters degree in Counseling. FI just started his BA in education and was working and doing school full time until he was laid off a few months ago. We've been together 7 years next month, all ofi it long distance. By the time I get married, we will have been enaged for 4 years, so needless to say I cannot wait to get married next May. We're getting married on the top floor of an Irish Bistro that was apparently a former funeral home.

There will be no cash bar at my wedding. I've been engaged long enough to know better ;) We are still deciding on inviting kids to our wedding that aren't family.

ksj10032782 · April 2013

Hi! I'd like to join as well. I'm fairly active on the local board for where I got married and lurk here when I'm bored at work, which is every day. We got married Sept. 7, 2012 on the beach in the Outer Banks. We had 25 of our closest family and friends join us. I'm an events manager for a non profit org and my husband is in the accounting department for another nonprofit. We have 3 cats and a yellow lab who thinks she is a cat.

WiscDoll322 · April 2013

I've been a lurker for awhile since getting engaged in January. Learned a lot so far (even though I've been in seven weddings and attended 30+ in the last 10 years!).

My FI and I live in Wisconsin but are having a destination wedding on a beach in Florida in November of this year. We dig traveling and are aiming to travel to all 50 states (we're at 30 now!) sooner rather than later. I am a wine lover, and FI (a beer guy) got me a wine making kit for my recent birthday, so that will be our new endeavor this summer.

Wedding-related things we will not be doing: honeyfund, dollar dance, cake smashing, garter/bouquet toss, or favors. We will be hosting an open bar, having a seat for everyone, and not inviting more than our reception room can fit. We'll also be doing the Chicken Dance, since that's the only thing my dad will dance to.

Happy planning, everyone!

starchyld77 · April 2013

I am kinda new at this but I have not been online much due to work and health issues. My fiance and I got engaged Christmas day of this last year. He surprised me with my ring after singing me a song (he loves to sing and is quite good at it). It was also a white Christmas this year too which made it more special to me. We chose to get married in the fall because of the colors and some of the things that we have done together and shared during this season. Since I have been dealing with health issues and finally finding out what it was that waws ailing me my fiance has not left my side and I feel truly blessed to have someone like him in my life as it is

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