Is there such thing as..

candyqueen137 · April 2013

Too long of an engagement? My finace an I just got engaged but we picked out date April 2015. 2 years down the road to save up, to accomodate a few of our military friends and because we have a friend getting married in october of 2014 and I didnt want to intrude on her wedding and we are the maid of honor and the best man in their wedding. Is it ok to have a long engagement?

bakerie · April 2013

Yes, it is absolutely okay to have a long engagement. FI and I got engaged in 2010 and for various reasons have just barely started to plan now. Get married whenever works for you.

Jessa617 · April 2013

Your engagement can be as long as you want it to be. The longer it is, the more you can save!

daria24 · April 2013

Nope. It's a decision that is totally personal and whatever works for you and your FI-that's the right decision. Also I wouldn't call two years an exceptionally long engagement. H's cousin got engaged more than 3 years ago and finally set a day. So what?

ETA: I mean "nope" as the answer to "is there such a thing as too long of an engagement."

PrettyGirlLost · April 2013

Absolutely, there is no written law or rule that you must get married within a year of getting engaged.

My FI and I became engaged at the end of last June, and we aren't getting married until October 2014. We are saving money for the wedding, leaving ample time for DIY projects, and also because most venues and vendors book 1-1.5yrs out.

lyndausvi · April 2013

There is nothing wrong with a long engagement.

HOWEVER, keep in mind others will get engaged, might even have a wedding before or around your wedding, might happen to pick similar colors or some other wedding related item. It just goes with the territory.

Salsera29 · April 2013

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a long engagement. It makes planning less stressful and gives you plenty of time to lurk on TK and learn everything you need to know!

[Deleted User] · April 2013

It's whatever works for you and your FI. For me personally, 2 years is too long. But now I'm starting to think that 12 months is too long, haha. (although we're not going to be changing the date, everything is already booked)

My only struggle with your post is that your friend has an October 2014 wedding. So does that mean you can't have your wedding in 2014 too? I mean... she only gets one day. I get that you're both in the WP, but... it's one day. Not one year. Not even one month.

But in the end, do what works for you. No one will side-eye you if you pick a 2015 date so you can save up for the wedding and get your dream venue.

wihltsabow · April 2013

I don't even believe 2 years is that long of an engagement, but it's probably my max. Our date is in Feb 2015, and sometimes you just can't help external factors. Like others said, it also gives you more time to plan and save!