is it acceptable to have just bridesmaids and groomsmen with no one person designated as maid or honor or best man? i'm having a hard time choosing and although i originally said i would have 2 maids of honor, i'm thinking of just considering them all as my "best ladies." also, can a groomsmen be 11 years old? i'm having trouble trying to include my brother who is too old to be a ring bearer...or is he? help!