Bridal Shower & Bachelorette Invites

Re: Bridal Shower & Bachelorette Invites

• Kate61487 member

  

  April 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-bachelorette-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:48d4bed0-e16f-4113-90bc-a16a7c1dd7a0Post:6416c4e5-fe97-42ba-b3e4-08cf23ccd649">Bridal Shower & Bachelorette Invites</a>:
  [QUOTE]My MOH asked me for a guest list for both parties.  As I started working on them I was stuck on a few people.  For the Bridal Shower Am I suppose to invite all the females I am inviting to the wedding? <strong><u>No</u></strong>
  
  Who do you normally invite to the bridal shower and the bachelorette party? <strong><u>Traditionally it's the close family and friends of the bride.  You should defer to your host regarding the size and who they'd like to host and go from there.  I had two showers, one hosted by my aunts included 50+ family and my friends.  The other hosted by MIL included about 30 of H's family and a few family friends.  My b-party, hosted by my MOHs, was about 15 girls - all my close friends (and all about my age).   There's not really a right or wrong.  Commonly showers are more local guests only.  A shower invite to a distant relative (emotional relationship and/or physical distance) could be seen as a gift-grab.  And you certainly don't want to overwhelm your shower host with a list of 50 people if she was only prepared to host 15.  Take those things into consideration.</u></strong>
  
  I just want to make sure I don't miss anyone.  There are a few female friends who are the wives of someone in FI family and other are a few of his friends.  These female friends, I know and have been out with them before but they are his friends. <strong><u>The only of H's friends who were invited to a shower were close family friends where the friend's mom was invited too.  If it had been a couples shower I wouldn't have thought twice about inviting, like, his work friends, but since it wasn't I figured it would seem like a gift-grab since I'm not close to them.</u></strong>
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• Kristin789 member

  

  April 2013

  You invite the women who have been the closest to you, who have been with you through thick and thin, who have been with you every step of your relationship with FI.  You do not invite people you don't really know who really don't know you.

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  April 2013

  I would only invite the women you are closest to.  So if you don't personally know FI's friend's wife, I would not invite her. Nearest and dearest only. Same goes for bachelorette party.

  
  
  
  
  

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• fperez7542

  

  April 2013

  Great! Thank you all so much!
  
  Reason I asked was because my over opinionated BM I have posted about asked how many people are invited to both and when I gave the number she said why so little.  She stated the Bridal Shower is for all the women invited to the wedding.  I knew that was off, so I wanted to make sure.
  

  

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• xxstardust member

  

  April 2013 edited April 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-bachelorette-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:48d4bed0-e16f-4113-90bc-a16a7c1dd7a0Post:427b16e9-2072-4653-af04-3de7909525aa">Re: Bridal Shower & Bachelorette Invites</a>:
  [QUOTE]Great! Thank you all so much! Reason I asked was because my over opinionated BM I have posted about asked how many people are invited to both and when I gave the number she said why so little.  She stated the Bridal Shower is for all the women invited to the wedding.  I knew that was off, so I wanted to make sure.
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  That may differ some by social circle - I know in my circle/area, the showers tend to be larger and to include more distant relatives (my mom's cousins, my great-aunts, my mom's/FI's mom's close friends who saw us grow up, etc). Always people who are invited to the wedding and who you know at least somewhat well, but not necessarily just your "nearest and dearest."

  
  

  140 invited -- 118 are ready to party! -- 27 can't make it
  

  
  

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