THere is a girl at work that we have a relationship that can best be described as Frenemies. We are cordial to each other but we by and large dont get along and have mutual friends. She is a major social climber and very two faced.
My fiance and I met at work so naturally many many co workers will be attending. Two of which are the best friends of this girl, let's call her Kate.
My fiance told her that she was invited. The reason he did thiswas because he said he was fine with Kate coming and I just kept my mouth shut. He took that as silent agreement. It was not.
Quite frankly, I do not want to pay for her food, cake, plates etc. Just, no. I do not see this as a birthday party where I have to do the socially right thing and invite her to keep the peace. This is a milestone occasion in my life and Im just not going to play those games. She doesnt care about me and I have personally heard her talk so horribly about my fiance in the past, she just wants to go because its a work social event.
My solution was that I told my fiance ok fine you have to get all her address information from her. But I really just dont even want that. I think I'll just "forget" to get her information. Or be honest and say "we have never been close, to invite you I have to cut others from my list who are close to me and my fiance"