I just read through a 9-page post on another board I lurk on. The OP is in a trial separation from her husband. They just found out that he doesn't ever want kids and she wants them RIGHT NOW.
Well, she just found out she is pregnant, despite being on the pill. Everyone is saying how her husband has every right to walk away if he doesn't want to be a parent that she has to decide if she wants to be a single parent or have an abortion. A few people have said that he might change his mind, but then everyone else chimes in with, "BUT HE SAID HE DIDN'T WANT KIDS! DON'T EXPECT HIM TO CHANGE!"
These kinds of situations make me so sad. Sex and babies go together. If you absolutely, positively, can't ever imagine wanting to be a parent, I'm sorry, but don't have sex. When you have sex, it's possible that you will become a parent.
These posters are making me want to scream "He's already a parent! There's already a baby here!" Why does he get an option of walking away? This is his child and he is as responsible as she is. I really tried hard not to be judgmental at first, but the way popular consciousness is so warped makes me really sad.
I'm not really sure there's a point to my posting this, but I had to get it out and I know it will go over like a lead balloon if I put it in the original post. I thought you all might understand.