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Wanted to share escort card story

My Fi and I were invited to a wedding. It was before we were engaged, but we were already living together and had been in a relationship for 7 years. The wedding was for his friend's son. I know both the bride and groom from several get togethers that they've come to with their parents. When they sent the invitation it was addressed to both of us by name. When we got to the reception the escort card said Fi's name "and guest". I guess maybe they thought he would bring someone different by the time the wedding came around. LOL Just thought I would share that with you guys. I can laugh about it now, but I will admit I was a little ticked when I first saw it.
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Re: Wanted to share escort card story

  • My FH and I were invited to a wedding last summer. I put both of our names on the reply card even though they sent the invite to FH plus Guest. When we got to the reception the escort card, which needed to know who was getting what for dinner, still had me listed as "FH's Guest". I get they were too lazy to look on FB to get my name but when I gave it to you and you still call me "Guest", for real? Everyone I know who was at that wedding has gotten a thank card but FH and I.
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  • ooo this reminded me I wanted to share a story.  H and I went to a wedding a few weeks ago with frames listing the guest names for each table instead of escort cards.  i.e. at the entrance to the room there were 5x7 frames, one for each table, with hand written lists of who was at that table. 

    The problem arose when we (a group of HS friends of the bride) were at table 9 and the groom's grandparents, aunt/uncle, and parents were at table 4, but the top of the 4 was under the edge of the frame so someone mis-read it as 9.  When we got to our table there were 6 people, mostly elderly and one in a wheel chair, already sitting there we apologized and went back to check.  One of their group came with us and showed me their frame and I pointed out that it was actually a 4 because ours was definitely a 9 but we told them we didn't want to inconvenience them and we'd just switch tables, no problem.. Yeah, except their table was front and center because, you know, they're the groom's parents and grandparents.  In the end the coordinator went and helped them move, got us fresh waters (though one of the champagnes had been downed), etc. 

    So this is just a cautionary tale: make sure it's all legible!
  • lol

    I went to a wedding in Dec where the couple is FI's friend, but they both know me too. We've hung out and done things on many occassions. FI is planning to ask the groom if he will be in our wedding party.

    The invite came FI and guest. I responded with our names on the card. The escort card said FI's first and last name and just my first name.

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  • Oh! This reminds me. If I get wedding-related correspondence and my name is spelled incorrectly, should I mention it? Or just bite my tongue? Nevermind that I've gotten 2 pieces of wedding-related mail with my name spelled incorrectly and both had pre-printed address labels (ours, not theirs). Grr.
  • haha these are funny but i'm sure i'm going to "offend" someone at some point - a friend told me today i misspelled his GF's name on the STD. Whatever, i double checked (adn triple checked) 286 names, titles and addresses and one slipped through the cracks. all good. 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wanted-to-share-escort-card-story?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:bce2ae12-8884-4326-96d1-ef22364abe67Post:c7073522-4112-44c4-b5c8-ea796904fcc7">Re: Wanted to share escort card story</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh! This reminds me. If I get wedding-related correspondence and my name is spelled incorrectly, should I mention it? Or just bite my tongue? Nevermind that I've gotten 2 pieces of wedding-related mail with my name spelled incorrectly and both had pre-printed address labels (ours, not theirs). Grr.
    Posted by Rachaellennon[/QUOTE]

    My name is spelled Britni and my last name is complicated to non-french folk...it's the worst combo ever. No one can spell either...particularly not my first name.

    Are you talking about from guests or from vendors? I make sure that people who might need to use it spell it/say it right. As for guests, I'd just respond with it spelled correctly.

    Although, a girl I work with, Stacy....I kept calling her Stacey, and with each email she replied to me with, she spelled my name differently and incorrectly until I realized she was trying to point out I was doing it to her. Made me giggle.
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  • I made sure to find out all the "and guest" names if possible. We invited two young men (around 20 years old) who went to our church. We knew they each had a girlfriend, but we didn't know the girlfriends. DH was FB friends with the guys so I found their girlfriends' names listed. The guys were actually a little shocked/freaked out when they got the invite. They knew we didn't know their girlfriends' names and we hadn't asked them, so it took them awhile to figure out how we knew :D I did the right thing and it almost backfired! Oh well.
  • I'm glad that I'm not the only one! LOL It only takes about 2 minutes to pick up the phone and find out someone's name.
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