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  • emilykathleen511emilykathleen511
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_reception-only-invites-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:21959b92-87c3-42ae-a37d-627e552cc7caPost:9b1a7ba4-94f1-478f-883b-99f91089b8cd">Re:Reception only invites???</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Reception only invites???: Not if she's still referring to herself as 'technically married'. It's extremely offensive to people who had courthouse weddings, or don't have access to all these 'technical' rights. Perspective is seriously out of whack if a party is the most official element of being married.
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    ITA. I was just pointing out that the OP seemed to have gained some perspective after reading the responses to her post.
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  • JakesPrincessxoxoJakesPrincessxoxo
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_reception-only-invites-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:21959b92-87c3-42ae-a37d-627e552cc7caPost:564bffbf-7d2e-4ce6-97fd-6362bb1a9c7a">Re:Reception only invites???</a>:
    [QUOTE]Please enlighten us as to what was fake about your courthouse marriage, and how everyone who had a courthouse wedding didn't have a REAL wedding. Please also explain what is fake about the over 1,500 legal rights you now hve access to. Lastly, please explain why a floofy whit dress makes your marriage more REAL than the right to stay by your husbands side in the hospital, or decide if he lives or dies if he's in a coma. I'm all ears over here.
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    Haha...uncalled for, take a xanax. I'd like to thank everyone<strong> else</strong> on this board for their sound advice, like I said I never meant to insult anyone. I'm the first of all my siblings and cousins to get married (also my mother was never married) so I don't get much advice from my own family and peers.  Hub and I have decided we're just going to double it up as a 4th of July/belated celebration of our marriage party since we know we'll be able to get everyone together that day anyways <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
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  • JakesPrincessxoxoJakesPrincessxoxo
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_reception-only-invites-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:21959b92-87c3-42ae-a37d-627e552cc7caPost:db77032f-9f09-44e3-a46e-49c09f7cf859">Re:Reception only invites???</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Reception only invites??? : I see you're new here.  Might be good to lurk a bit.  Pele just said what a lot of us were thinking.
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    Actually a lot of the girls here were very pleasant in pointing me in the right direction. But if beating a dead horse is what you enjoy, that's cool. To each their own right?
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  • nda8414nda8414 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_reception-only-invites-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:21959b92-87c3-42ae-a37d-627e552cc7caPost:9c932c1c-2333-4dfe-bc3d-08425e747980">Re:Reception only invites???</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Reception only invites??? : Haha...uncalled for, take a xanax. I'd like to thank everyone else on this board for their sound advice, like I said I never meant to insult anyone. I'm the first of all my siblings and cousins to get married (also my mother was never married) so I don't get much advice from my own family and peers.  Hub and I have decided we're just going to double it up as a 4th of July/belated celebration of our marriage party since we know we'll be able to get everyone together that day anyways
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    I agree, its seriously not worth getting that worked up over pele
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    You don't.

    Your courthouse wedding WAS your "real wedding."  Thus, only a party that followed it would have been termed a "wedding reception."

    You can still have a paryt, but it should be termed a "celebration" instead, and some wedding accoutrements would be out of place, such as attendants, big white dress, gift registries, wedding cake, special dances, and so on. 
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  • Dreamergirl8812Dreamergirl8812 member
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    This exactly why people need to read the entire thread before they comments. Otherwise you kind of look like a douche. Particularly with how well and mature OP is handling it.



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  • nda8414nda8414 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_reception-only-invites-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:21959b92-87c3-42ae-a37d-627e552cc7caPost:5e718793-a625-4a25-becf-b43ac5c327d3">Re: Reception only invites???</a>:
    [QUOTE]This exactly why people need to read the entire thread before they comments. Otherwise you kind of look like a douche. Particularly with how well and mature OP is handling it.
    Posted by Dreamergirl8812[/QUOTE]


    Whenever I read the posts on here where people are freaking out over not calling something a reception, I have to laugh. If she wants to wear a big fluffy dress, I don't think the world is going to end.
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  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    What you're planning sounds lovely. The women here are used to people coming in, saying they "signed some papers" because they want health insurance/military benefits/to not live in "sin" or whatever, and they are secretly married, but still going to have their big wedding and not tell anyone they are already legally wed. In THAT case, of course stating that they are married in certain circumstances (when the insurance company asks, or the government) is convenient, but they're fine with lying to their friends and family. So this is the reason many of us get our hackles up when people say they are having a "real wedding" later on. 

    Hosting your first party as a married couple over the summer with some nice food and drinks at your home sounds like a very nice plan. If you have any photos from your ceremony, I would be fine with having those available as well, since I guarantee some people will ask.
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  • ErinElizabethRErinElizabethR
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    In Response to Re:Reception only invites???:[QUOTE]I didn't mean to offend anybody. I realize we had our real wedding technically, but he got a new job with a huge pay increase from the last, so yes just a few months later we'll finally be able to afford the wedding we want. I'm not going to wear a big poofy white dress, maybe just a little white sun dress. I'm just very bummed out I wish we knew he was going to get this job offer before we decided to go to the courthouse. Thanks to those of you who helped with the wording of the invites, as that's what I came here to ask. Posted by JakesPrincessxoxo[/QUOTE]
    Take the money you would have spent on the wedding and go on a really super duper kickass belated honeymoon.
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