Today I learned that the state of Indiana is stupid.

[Deleted User] · April 2013

Why, you ask? Because I have to have a doctor sign a pre-marital examination certificate.

The prospective bride ONLY must have the State of Indiana Pre-Marital Examination Certificate filled out and signed (original signature required, no faxed or carbon copy signatures permitted) by a doctor. If the prospective bride can show proof of a previous rubella test, her immunization records or records of sterilization, the doctor may fill out the state form and sign it. If no records can be obtained, a blood test will be required. In either case, the state form must be completed and signed by a doctor (which must be legible). Out of state blood tests will not be accepted unless recorded on the Indiana state form. If the prospective bride is 50 years of age or older, no medical forms are required.

WTF, Indiana. I'm already having a crappy day, and now I learn this crap??? I live out of state. Finding a doctor is an enormous PITA. So now I'm going to have to find a doctor that will perform (yet another) blood test on me so I can freaking get married?? I'm so sick of dealing with crap.

Sorry. Today has not been good. I haven't talked to my FH for more than 15 minutes in the last 8 days and I feel like I'm being ignored and it's just... sorry. This isn't the place to vent this stuff.

libby18bell · April 2013

That's such crap. I'm so sorry, stupid Indiana.

NY used to require a blood test for both the bride and groom, but thats a no go anymore, thank goodness.

thejucheidea · April 2013

Yeah, unfortunately, that's still a thing in a few states. At least you found out now and not like... a week before the wedding.

[Deleted User] · April 2013

I want to throw an enormous and immature temper tantrum. But I can't. I'm at work.

[Deleted User] · April 2013

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[QUOTE]Yeah, unfortunately, that's still a thing in a few states. At least you found out now and not like... a week before the wedding.
Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]

<div>And yes, that is a very good point.</div><div>
</div><div>I think I'm calming down. Honestly, I don't know why I'm in such a terrible mood today. I had a good weekend. I imagine part of it is because I won't get to talk to FH until Wednesday at the earliest, because he has work tonight and then was free tomorrow but then (and yes, I know how immature this is for me to be whining about) his coworkers invited him to trivia night tomorrow. Sorry I don't want to be okay with him hanging out with his coworkers when I haven't talked to him in a week. And with our history, inevitably something will come up and his family will need him for something, and then we won't get to talk. Sigh. (We've had many talks about this. Our schedules just suck.)</div>

hardlyhannah · April 2013

Bummer! Can you at least do it at home and have the doctor fill out the Indiana form or whatever?

And this is the perfect place to vent about this stuff!

I am sorry your schedules are so hard - FI and I worked opposite schedules for a while, but still had the weekends - I can't imagine not having that either. I hope you can get a few minutes at least to connect!

[Deleted User] · April 2013

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[QUOTE]Bummer! Can you at least do it at home and have the doctor fill out the Indiana form or whatever? And this is the perfect place to vent about this stuff! I am sorry your schedules are so hard - FI and I worked opposite schedules for a while, but still had the weekends - I can't imagine not having that either. I hope you can get a few minutes at least to connect!
Posted by hardlyhannah[/QUOTE]

<div>Not that I've seen. I mean if I really want I can track down my immunization records, but we've moved so many times I can pretty much guarantee my mom has no idea where they are. Nor do I think the hospital where I was born even exists anymore.</div><div>
</div><div>I guess the hardest part is that he texted me last night and said "I'm free all day Tuesday" and then shortly after "was invited to trivia night on Tuesday." We had talked about video chatting last night, but then I got a text, "Got roped into watching Passion of the Christ" </div><div>
</div><div>And just yesterday I was saying how I'm not stressed about the wedding.. Well, okay. I'm not stressed about that. It's everything else that has me worked up.</div>

thejucheidea · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Today I learned that the state of Indiana is stupid. : I guess the hardest part is that he texted me last night and said "I'm free all day Tuesday" and then shortly after "was invited to trivia night on Tuesday." We had talked about video chatting last night, but then I got a text, "Got roped into watching Passion of the Christ" And just yesterday I was saying how I'm not stressed about the wedding.. Well, okay. I'm not stressed about that. It's everything else that has me worked up.
Posted by lplions[/QUOTE]

I think you just need to put your foot down and tell him he's being an ass and needs to make time to pay attention to you.

[Deleted User] · April 2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Today I learned that the state of Indiana is stupid. : I think you just need to put your foot down and tell him he's being an ass and needs to make time to pay attention to you.
Posted by ahstillwell[/QUOTE]

<div>He knows I feel like he's ignoring me. This past week was particularly bad with 2 birthdays, a holiday, and the high school he works at was on spring break so he was putting in more hours to get stuff done without the kids there (he's the theater manager). And the one night he was free this last week I had Bible study (I was teaching, so I couldn't exactly skip it). Fortunately I'll be seeing him again in two weeks for the weekend.</div>

Ro041 · April 2013

OK - that is obnoxious. I would be be pissed if FI didn't make time for me because of trivia and Passion of the Christ. I hope he comes around soon! I would be livid!!!!

[Deleted User] · April 2013

Rochelle & snippet, I understand why you'd be mad with your FH's... and honestly, there are days when I want to be mad.

But, for clarification's sake... I live in Virginia. He lives in Indiana. So... he can't exactly invite me to any of these things (I guess I haven't made it obvious we're LD). He lives at home with his parents, because he can't afford to live on his own - even with a roommate, and I can't afford to pay for an apartment for him. And then pay the lease breaking fee when he moves out after we're married (there's no way I can afford rent & utilities on two apartments).

It's not worth me getting mad all the time when stuff like this happens. It's just not. I'm frustrated because it's been over a week, though, and we've had extremely minimal contact. By the time I finally get to see his face again (although it will be virtually) it will have been a week and a half.

ETA: snippet I just checked out the website you posted. I'm getting conflicting information from it. But, after more research I'm even getting conflicting info from indy.gov's website as well... So, I have no idea if I actually need to get one or not. Guess I'll be calling up the county we're getting married in...

Ro041 · April 2013

I totally gathered that you were LD. That's why I would be livid. I had a friend whose DH was in Kuwait for a year (after being in Afghanistan for a year in 2007). The only way their marriage survived was video chat! She was always going home, or leaving early, or turning on the video chat at my house so he could be a part of the party.

We used to sit on my back porch last summer with him on skype. We would drink beer with my FI and we would all chat like he was at the table. I would be so frustrated if he wasn't making the relationship a priority like that. I wish I knew what to tell you!

libby18bell · April 2013

lplions, you can vent here anytime. Each relationship is different, some things get under some or our skins and some things don't. I can completely get feeling stressed about a ton of stuff at the same time, so feel free to vent whenever, that's what we are hear for.

[Deleted User] · April 2013

Yea. Thanks for understanding, girls.

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