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HELP! Do I Invite My Aunt, Uncle & Cousins When WE AREN'T CLOSE?!

ModelinaMichelleModelinaMichelle member
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My Sister who is also my  Maid of Honor keeps pressuring me to invite my aunt, uncle and cousins on my dads side of the family when she is close to them and I am not.  I haven't seen or heard from them in literally years. She however spends a lot of time with them. What do I do? They haven't congratulated me on my engagment. We are having a smallish wedding of 150 people and My Fiance and I are paying for it ourselves. What should I do?
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Re: HELP! Do I Invite My Aunt, Uncle & Cousins When WE AREN'T CLOSE?!

  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    If you haven't spoken to them in years, you should not feel obligated to invite them unless it is going to cause drama in your family. Your sister can invite them to HER events if she is close to them.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    You're paying, not your sister. Don't invite them if you don't want to. ETA grammar fail
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  • gottahavashortigottahavashorti member
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    If you're not close, they don't need to be invited.  That said, does your dad have a strong opinion on this?  Sometimes it is easier to make room to avoid family drama, or to invite in circles in an effort to keep people happy - immediate family and grandparents, then aunts and uncles, then cousins, then cousin's kids, etc. but stop wherever you feel comfortable.
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  • hackedhacked member
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    I agree with PP.  When your sister gets married, she can invite the people she is close to.  Why is she wanting to entertain them on your dime?  If she wants, she can take them out to dinner.  (insert snotty smirk)
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    In Response to HELP! Do I Invite My Aunt, Uncle & Cousins When WE AREN'T CLOSE?!:
    [QUOTE]My Sister who is also my  Maid of Honor keeps pressuring me to invite my aunt, uncle and cousins on my dads side of the family when she is close to them and I am not.  I haven't seen or heard from them in literally years. She however spends a lot of time with them. What do I do? They haven't congratulated me on my engagment. We are having a smallish wedding of 150 people and My Fiance and I are paying for it ourselves. What should I do?
    Posted by ModelinaMichelle[/QUOTE]

    You pay, you say.  You don't need to invite them.

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  • MuppetFanMuppetFan member
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    edited May 2013
    I am inviting people I want at my wedding who will increase the enjoyment of our wedding day plus a few people to avoid a fight with FMIL.
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    You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.

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