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My MOH and Bms are hosting my shower. My MOH asked for a list of everyone to invite stating that it should basically be every woman invited to the wedding.

I am not adding FMIL's friends that I don't know, that'd be weird. However, should I list FI's cousins that I barely know? We see them at the Christmas party every year, but I have never really talked to them. I will be giving the guest list to FMIL to highlight who she thinks should be invited, but I am worried about that battle since the rest of the guest list was a battle with her.

What are you ladies doing?

 

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  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    FI's mom is giving me a list of people to include to the shower. A lot of their side is included, but not all.  I would think to include some of FI's cousins, but not necessarily cousins you don't know. 

    I'm really no help. Were you invited to their showers? Is there a high cost per person? As in, is there any harm in including more people? I would imagine there is also a high turn down rate for a shower - especially if it is over the summer and people are going on vacations.

    I generally feel that it is easier to include people than to not.  You really might need to talk to FI's mom. The mom could have friends that you might not think to include, but it could be important to her.
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  • formerlyCooperformerlyCooper
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    I would invite his female cousins. They don't have to attend and it would be a nice gesture. My family has only vaguely talked "shower" at this point, so I have no idea if I'll be getting one, much less what the invite list would look like. ;]
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  • Stina51286Stina51286 member
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    In Response to Re: Bridal Shower:
    [QUOTE]FI's mom is giving me a list of people to include to the shower. A lot of their side is included, but not all.  I would think to include some of FI's cousins, but not necessarily cousins you don't know.  I'm really no help. Were you invited to their showers? Is there a high cost per person? As in, is there any harm in including more people? I would imagine there is also a high turn down rate for a shower - especially if it is over the summer and people are going on vacations. I generally feel that it is easier to include people than to not.  You really might need to talk to FI's mom. The mom could have friends that you might not think to include, but it could be important to her.
    Posted by SewInLoveWithDMB[/QUOTE]

    Some where married before FI and I got engaged so I wasn't invited to theirs. Since then though, if they have babies, I've been added to the invite with FMIL. The ones I know are for sure getting invited. Ugh, this is hard!

     

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  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    In Response to Re: Bridal Shower:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Shower : Some where married before FI and I got engaged so I wasn't invited to theirs. Since then though, if they have babies, I've been added to the invite with FMIL. The ones I know are for sure getting invited. Ugh, this is hard!
    Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]

    I would think that if you were included to theirs, you should invite them back. 
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    image198 Yes (+ 12 children and 3 babies)
    image95 No
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  • Stina51286Stina51286 member
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    In Response to Re: Bridal Shower:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Shower : I would think that if you were included to theirs, you should invite them back. 
    Posted by SewInLoveWithDMB[/QUOTE]

    Those ones I am since I have gotten to know them more. Its hard because his family is huge. Is mom has like 8 siblings and his dad has 9. My mom has 5 and my dad has 4 and my stepdad two. I obviously know who to invite on my family's side, but not his.

    My MOH wants a count so she can use her Groupon for VP before it expires. Which I understand.

    I am dreading this conversation with FMIL.

     

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  • SewInLoveWithDMBSewInLoveWithDMB member
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    In Response to Re: Bridal Shower:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Shower : Those ones I am since I have gotten to know them more. Its hard because his family is huge. Is mom has like 8 siblings and his dad has 9. My mom has 5 and my dad has 4 and my stepdad two. I obviously know who to invite on my family's side, but not his. My MOH wants a count so she can use her Groupon for VP before it expires. Which I understand. I am dreading this conversation with FMIL.
    Posted by Stina51286[/QUOTE]

    Good luck with that. I think unfortunately she is the only one who can give you a solid answer on who to include and who not to include.

    (By the way - that is a huge family. My  mom is an only child, my dad has one brother, FI's mom has 2 siblings and FI's dad has 2 surviving siblings. His side is bigger than mine, but still, it's small by comparison)
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  • Stina51286Stina51286 member
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    In Response to Re: Bridal Shower:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Shower : Good luck with that. I think unfortunately she is the only one who can give you a solid answer on who to include and who not to include. (By the way - that is a huge family. My  mom is an only child, my dad has one brother, FI's mom has 2 siblings and FI's dad has 2 surviving siblings. His side is bigger than mine, but still, it's small by comparison)
    Posted by SewInLoveWithDMB[/QUOTE]

    There is a reason our guest list for the wedding is almost 400. We aren't inviting kids, except for our siblings kids. So it is immediate family, first cousins, our friends, and a selected few of our parent's friends.

     

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  • hardlyhannahhardlyhannah member
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    I am definintely planning on inviting the women on FI's side of the family - but it is a much smaller group and I know them all. I am not inviting his parent's cousins who are out of town and I just met for the first time recently at a funeral though. I draw the line there! They will be welcomed at the wedding, but not the shower, I want that to be people I actually know.
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