B & G alone time, away from family?

Re: B & G alone time, away from family?

• michellesean

  

  May 2013

  I don't think its rude. We have family traveling for our wedding and we will not bedoing Sunday brunch with them but its ok since we are doing so mich stuff the week before the wedding.

  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  May 2013

  I think it's fine. As a guest, I'd like the "night off," so to speak, to not have to dress up, or socialise with people I don't know. I bet each side of the family would like a night to hang out with their respective sides of the family.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• Kristin789 member

  

  May 2013 edited May 2013

  In my area, the bride and groom would leave from the wedding reception, in a big send off with sparklers, etc.  And you wouldn't come home until Sunday night. 
  
  The bride and groom are never at the day-after brunch - that's for the bride's family to spend more time with people who came in from out of town.

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• Viczaesar member

  

  May 2013

  In Response to Re: B & G alone time, away from family?:
  [QUOTE]In my area, the bride and groom would leave from the wedding reception, in a big send off with sparklers, etc.  And you wouldn't come home until Sunday night.  The bride and groom are never at the day-after brunch - that's for the bride's family to spend more time with people who came in from out of town.
  Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
  Yes, but your area is in a time and reality warp and isn't actually applicable to anybode else's situation.

  
  
  
  

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• jessicabessica member

  

  May 2013

  It's reasonable for you to want to be alone with your new H, but it sounds ike he will feel bad about not seeing family for at least a little bit Saturday night.  You need to figure out a compromise with him.  

  
  

  Any way you could get Monday off from work?  We got married on a holiday weekend about 2 hours from us (and all of our guests traveled much further).  We had dinner with immediate families Thursday and Friday, and saw guests around during the day Friday.  We had a BBQ with everyone Saturday, wedding Sunday, and then brunch Monday.  After brunch, we had mimosas with our immediate families in our suite and then left (they were staying in the hotel for another day).  I took Tuesday off just to have a day to decompress/relax with my new H, and I highly recommend it.  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  May 2013 edited May 2013

  I do not think you are wrong.  But I don't think you FI is wrong either. 

  
  

    We wanted to spend at much time with our OOT people as possible.  We were with them Wed, Thurs, Friday, Saturday and Sunday morning.   It would not have felt right for them to be in town and us not spend as much time with them as possible.  Not everyone feels that way. 

  
  

  Just because it's your wedding weekend does not mean everything has to be planned to the minute.  Go with the flow.  Want to go out?  Go.  Want to stay in? Stay.  Make those choices in the moment.  

  
  

  NOTE - DH and I suck at planned romantic nights.    Planning a romantic night seem to end up with someone getting disappointed.     

  
  

  
  

  FWIW - I was just in a wedding in Austria.  We had no plans for the day after the wedding.  The B&G at the wedding suggested we all get together for dinner with a few other OOT people.  We didn't have specific plans only to met.   

  
  

  It ended up one of the best nights ever.   We ended up at a winery up on a hill that overlooked Vienna.  There was a wedding down below that had fireworks at sundown.   Food and wine were great, company was awesome.  Love was in the air.  It was an amazing time that was not planned.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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