The earlier post got me thinking. We invited the SOs of all of our friends, regardless of length of relationship or how much we like that person. It just seemed right. Truly single friends, and there are only nine such people in out 145person guest list, did not get a plusone. Our STDs went out weeks ago.
Since then, my MOH and her fianc, whom we invited because he's her fianc, even though we don't much like him, have 'called off' their engagement, but are still dating. I'm assuming she's still bringing him, but I haven't asked because I don't need to know this far in advance and she mostly just wants to vent about him so I let her do that. The STD went to her/him at her address, to make it clear he was invited as a SO, not in his own right.
One of my single friends has started casually seeing someone. He asked about bringing her. Since our wedding is in October, and they've only gone on three dates, I said, 'If you're seeing someone by the time of our wedding, of course you can bring her, whether it's this woman or someone else.'
But here's my question: when is the cutoff for people to bring SOs? When the invites go out? When they RSVP? The day I need to turn the final head count into our caterer? The day I have to turn the seating charts into the venue for setup? I don't want to be rude, but neither do I want to be redoing seating charts the day before my wedding.
I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'