PPD On Four Weddings

Re: PPD On Four Weddings

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  May 2013 edited May 2013

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  [QUOTE]the only reason they are becoming more "acceptable" is because of all of the bridal/wedding shows on TV now, and it's another way for salons, venues, photographers, etc. etc. etc to make a ton more money.  The bridal industry doesn't typically have repeat customers. They know, once the wedding is over, it's over.  This is just another way for them to make more money. On one episode of SYTTD, there was a woman who got married about 2 years before, and she hated her dress, and it rained on her wedding day. So, they were having a do-over.  All of the people at the bridal salon were saying, "oh, you DESERVE a do-over. you DESERVE to look beautiful on your wedding day."  Well, that ship sailed in the ugly dress and in the rain.   It was ridiculous. Etiquette doesn't change though. It's still rude and tacky.
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  I disagree, honestly I never knew of the vow renewal "rules" or any of that nature.  Infact, most in my circle didnt either until TK.  So I would say it would depend much more on how you are raised or taught about etiquette more so than the bridal industry promoting them.  IF anything it's more so women feeling like they NEED a PPD however If you look at many different traditions from countries all over the world weddings in some places are a huge deal and big affairs.  So it's no wonder why girls grow up thinking this day is almost entitled to them.  I'm not saying anyone is wrong with feeling that way.  It's our materialistic society in general that's the problem and it's something hard to pull away from.  
  
  I also don't think a couple has to go through a bunch of horrible things to have a PPD.  I think if someone wants to spend their money on themselves that's their business.  People really don't have to come.  It's all a choice.  I will say a lot of etiquette rules are pretty old school and I am noticing more and more as the years pass they change.  It's how things go.  Things change.  Some people accept them others don't.  Life is WAY too short for people to worry so much of others opinions.  If it's not physically harming me, your life is your life.  Etiquette does change, everything changes in life one point or another. 

  
  

  I think if people took away the big hoopla over having this ceremony and reception then things would be different.  But we are a society where we see it, we want it even if we can't have it right now.   
  
  

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• perfectisboring member

  

  May 2013

  I would feel the same way. I know it's considered bad etiquette, but I would be happy to celebrate with a friend if there were similar circumstances. I know that couples sometimes have to sacrifice the wedding they want due to issues beyond their control (ie, not money-related or for something else that's petty), and if that were the case, I don't think I'd side-eye it.
  
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  [QUOTE]So I just got invited to my first real PPD.  And while I would normally side eye this, I can't help but still be excited for my friend.  Its technically just a 1st anniversary party but I can tell she is going to have the dress, bridesmaids, the whole deal.  Everyone invited knows they already got married...The big wedding was supossed to be last year and they postponed it, but when I ran into her a few months ago she let me know they did get married but had to postpone "the wedding."  I did not want to be a biatch and say actually you did have a wedding because you are already married. I did not ask why they went the route they did, but since guests know I'm over it and am looking forward to celebrating her marriage, PPD and all.
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