My Fiance and I just recently got engaged, our situation is a little unique because we have a 3 year old and have basically been living as a married couple for over 4 years now. The reason we waited so long was I didn't really see the need and our families are very different culturally and religiously. This made me a little nervous and I knew that planning a wedding would probably be stressful so I have been looking into eloping or destination weddings to keep it low key and simple, however I haven't ruled out traditional weddings. A part of me is really starting to want one but I worry about how well extended family members and friends might get along.
I spoke with my Mother today about all of my concerns and she blew up at me. She told me if we don't have a traditional wedding the way my culture expects (Russian American) then she will be embarrassed and insulted. In her eyes not having a wedding is basically saying I don't think our friends and family are good enough or that my parents can afford to throw us a wedding.This really has nothing to do with budget, we were planning on paying for it ourselves since we can afford to and we're not starting out the traditional way but she won't hear of it.
Anyways she has flipped her lid and went off on me, now I just feel really down in the dumps about all of this. Thanks for letting me vent..