What's the proper way to handle this?

wittykitty14 · May 2013

Hi everyone,

So, our invitations are almost ready to go out! (Big sigh of relief). FI and I are inviting one of our professors from college, and we know he's had a steady girlfriend for a number of years. She's obviously invited, but we have no idea what her last name is. I've emailed him, but he hasn't written back yet. I'm hoping to mail the invitations Friday, but we can push it back a couple more days if need be. He's done for the school year, so there's a good chance he won't check his email as much.

Given that we only know her first name, what do we do if he doesn't respond in time? Do I just write "and guest?", because I hate to do that if someone is in a relationship. I feel like writing just her first name on the inner envelope is tacky, and would make it seem like I'm inviting a grown man and a child. What's the proper thing to do here? I appreciate any suggestions!

wittykitty14 · May 2013

This professor has been done for two weeks, because that's how it works for his field. He's already completely checked out for the summer. I used to have his personal email, but I think I lost it. He was never great about email anyway.

Yes, I call him by his first name. I hadn't considered doing that! Is that too tacky though? They'd be the only one's we're doing that with (not like they'd know), but still. I really like that option!

I could give him a few more days. But what about the rest of the invites? Should I wait to send all of them together or just mail his 2-3 days later?