Do they sit together... or not?

petronella91_8273434 · May 2013

At our reception we are going to have a Bridal Party table instead of a table for just my FI and I. My question is, if people in our BP brings a guest, where do they sit?

Maggie0829 · May 2013

You should allow their guest to sit with them at your head table. It would be rude and uncomfortable for the guest to be separated from their date.

banana468 · May 2013

In Response to Re:Do they sit together... or not?:[QUOTE]At our reception we are going to have a Bridal Party table instead of a table for just my FI and I. My question is, if people in our BP brings a guest, where do they sit? nbsp; Posted by petronella91[/QUOTE] They'll be seated with their guest/SO at the BP table.

brielleinlove · May 2013

If there is time for you to rethink this option, please do. Bridal party tables are terribly awkward. Much of the time, the only common thread between the members of the party are that they are close to the bride and the groom. Bride's college besties are not necessarily going to know groom's siblings, which makes for awkward, stilted conversation. Having experienced this myself as a bridesmaid (and having been the sibling that knew almost none of the other bridal party members), I am in favor of seating bridal party members and their SOs at regular tables with people they know.

tiny speck · May 2013

Allow bridal party guests to sit with their dates. It wouldn't be very nice to split up couples. If it means needing to have more than one table for bridal party members and their guests, then do that.

petronella91_8273434 · May 2013

Well I really like the idea that a PP had about just the Best Man, Maid of Honor and their dates sitting with us, because his best man is his brother and my Maid of Honor is my sister, but FI little sister is a bridesmaid and I don't want to leave her out. I don't know I just don't want to sit by ourselves haha but I also don't want 14 people at the table.. guess I have to weigh which one I don't want more.

Maggie0829 · May 2013

Then sit at a table with your MOH and her date, his BM and his date and your FI little sister and her date (if she has one). This isn't rocket science. Also know that you will most likely be sitting at this table for 30-45 minutes before you are up and moving around greeting your guests so it really isn't something to stress over.

Belle0720 · May 2013

If you don't want to do a sweetheart table or a table with just the best man/date & moh/date, how about doing a family table? And then just sit the wedding party/dates amongst the rest of the guests?

Or you could do as you suggested in your OP, head table with the wedding party & their dates.

rel1988 · May 2013

I have been in 2 weddings and have been to over 10 where I've been old enough to remember and I have never seen the bridal party sit with their dates at the head table. Not saying it's not the right thing to include them, I have just never seen it done.

kmcmaster05 · May 2013

I had JUST started dating my most significant ex-boyfriend at the time of his brother's wedding and had not met ANY of his family until that weekend. I will admit that it was somewhat awkward to be seated at the head table with the bride and groom and their families but it would have been AWFUL to sit anywhere else. At least they had known a little bit about me at the time and I was able to participate in the conversation.

I just can't imagine not sitting with my date at a wedding. The time between church and reception (I was on the trolley with the whole wedding party) was bad enough while everyone else was doing pictures haha.

STARMOON44 · May 2013

I think 13 is plenty old enough to sit with the rest of the wedding party.

Viczaesar · May 2013

In Response to Re: Do they sit together... or not?:
[QUOTE]I have been in 2 weddings and have been to over 10 where I've been old enough to remember and I have never seen the bridal party sit with their dates at the head table. Not saying it's not the right thing to include them, I have just never seen it done.
Posted by rel1988[/QUOTE]
How sad.

RaeH42_2571267 · May 2013

I was at a wedding where my FI was standing up in the wedding and I had to sit with a table full of people I didn't know. It was very uncomfortable and lonely. Everyone was very nice but I would have preferred to be able to sit with my FI verses a table full of strangers.

annathy03 · May 2013

Like Rel, I've never been to a wedding where the head table included BP dates (including a few where either I or my FI were in the BP). With 5 attendants on each side, doing that you could end up with a 22 person head table, which seems a little rediculous.

We were leaning towards a sweetheart table anyways, in no small part to avoid splitting folks, but I wonder why this isn't more well-known. I'll have to consider a PP's suggestion of doing us with the MOH and Best Man couples, as I'm not terribly fond of the sweetheart since it is so very center-of-attention but didn't want a "traditional" head table the way I knew them as I didn't want to split couples.

Jessa617 · May 2013

In Response to Re: Do they sit together... or not?:
[QUOTE]Then sit at a table with your MOH and her date, his BM and his date and your FI little sister and her date (if she has one). This isn't rocket science. Also know that you will most likely be sitting at this table for 30-45 minutes before you are up and moving around greeting your guests so it really isn't something to stress over.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

Maybe not even this long. H and I were seated (together anyways) for maybe a total of 10 minutes and that was during the meal and the toast. We had a buffet style reception so it wasn't a sit down plated dinner.

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