VERY DISAPPOINTED

hgminor · May 2013

Me too! I just spent time posting a really solid, and respectful reply about people cussing or not! Bad moment to do the switch!

annathy03 · May 2013

I agree most folks here aren't rude, although I can't help but notice there is definitely a difference between what one poster on another thread called "knot board etiquette" and what's on the knot site, and in books (including TKs). I've seen some cases where a bride is leaning towards say, Miss Manners advice (who permits B lists, "Having a B list is not a crime, but letting someone know that he is on it, is.") but comes here for another perspective, and they do seem to have their throat jumped down for considering anything but "knot board etiquette". Everyone is of course welcome to share their opinion when people ask for it, and the perspectives here are clearly valued, but at times it can come off a bit snotty which is more than a bit conterintuitive when soliciting etiquette advice.

harper0813 · May 2013

Where did all the posts in this thread go?!?! UGH

LAM524 · May 2013

My comment disappeared AGAIN!!!!!!!!!! Geez!!!!!! It wasnt disrespectful or "rude"...no profanity!!! What in the world?????

daveANDkristen · May 2013

AddieL73 said:

In Response to Re: VERY DISAPPOINTED:
[QUOTE]just to add more fuel to the fire. most of the post r ok but I have seen some rude and judemental statements on the post especially the e board. There r ways of saying things without being mean.The rep for the the knot boards are not that great and has a rep for being mean, rude and judemental just saying.I dont usually post because while ettiqutette has its place there are things that I dont agree with. I know better than to post it here and get judge for it . I make up my own mind if it is something I can live with
Posted by Jcbgs[/QUOTE]
That's a matter of opinion. Who decides what is "mean"? What you think is mean, perhaps I don't and vice versa. Some people are very thin skinned. I have students whom I've said, "Stop doing that" to and have had them respond, "Why are you yelling at me?!" Uh, really? If that's your idea of yelling, you should probably get out more. I feel the same is true here.

You know what? Sometimes we ARE judgmental, and I stand by that. I judge some things. I judge people who have cash bars. I judge people who don't invite significant others, even if the couple has been a couple for 2 days. Just to name a couple. We all have stuff we judge in this world. This is a forum of how to put on a wedding and properly host your guests. And sometimes the ideas people here have are things that will NOT properly host their guests. And we tell them so.

What difference does it make what words are chosen? Rude is rude. If you are doing something I think is rude for your wedding, I'm going to say so point blank. If I say "That's rude," it's the same as if I say "That's a bad idea." It doesn't matter what words are chosen. The meaning behind the response is still the same. And you'll notice that most posters also give a detailed explanation as to WHY they think something is rude or won't go over well.

The bottom line is that everyone needs to grow the fluck up and realize this is the internet where you have tons of different personalities interacting. Things are not always going to go your way. Don't like it here? There's the door. Nobody is being held hostage here.

Please to be making this a sticky.

hgminor · May 2013

It's not you

The board changed and almost half of the posts got lost in the shuffle...

courtski2004 · May 2013

KimandByron said:

I just wish people would think about the feelings of the other person you are responding to.

Well while we're considering other people's feelings, if wishes were fishes and all that, then posters who have a question and have no intention of taking blunt, brutally honest advice need to just not post. A lot of people on the boards put a great deal of thought into their responses and for the OP to completely dismiss those replies is just as rude.

In many cases, we are considering their feelings--just in a different way than you might think. We try to give good enough advice so that they don't commit a major faux paus that would alienate their guests, make them look gift grabby or like a bridezilla.

On that note, calling out the people that are rude is more productive than a board wide passive aggressive whine fest. I dislike passive aggressive, so thanks for not considering my feelings.

QueerFemme · May 2013

What I'm VERY DISSAPOINTED about, is that the really good parts of this thread went poof.

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