All of my bridesmaids have picked up their dresses and got them altered. They all got them altered at their own place because the bridal salon was too expensive for everyone. My MOH sent out a message to everyone giving everyone a recommendation to her seamstress who was cheap. She did hemming, taking in/out and steaming all for $50. Everyone got theirs done except for one bridesmaid (Sarah).
Sarah told my MOH that she is not getting her dress taken out because she doesn't have the money. The dress is really tight on her and it's so tight that it bunches in the back and she can't sit down. I get in touch with Sarah and asked her what's going on. She said she got it hemmed, but that's it because she can't afford the rest. I asked her where she went and how much it was. She said she went to some place near her house and spent $70 on hemming!!! I asked why didn't she go with what the MOH suggested to everyone? She didn't answer me. I have been trying to get her to go to get her dress taken out since March and my wedding is now in 29 days. I asked her again last night when she is going to go get it fitted and she said tomorrow (today). So we will see. If she doesn't go, what should I do? I don't know what to do anymore. My MOH won't help me because she thinks it's Sarah's problem and she shouldn't have to babysit her. Sarah is 25 yrs. old and she should know responsibility. Yes, I completely agree, but if this was the other way around my MOH would be having a fit.
This goes way back with Sarah though. Throughout this whole wedding planning she has been complaining about money and how she never has any, but yet she makes it sound like she works 12 hrs a day and she's always going out and going to Blackhawks games. I understand that my BMs have a life outside of my wedding. I get that. She told be how stressed she was and making herself sick because of her finacial situation. I even asked her if being a bridesmaid was stressing her out. I told her I would be sad, but wouldn't be upset if she dropped out because her health is more important. She told me she would be ok. So I said ok. But now she's still telling me how she's broke and can't afford anything. I have tried talking to her. To give her a chance to tell me if there is something else that is bothering her. She tells me nothing. I have known her and have been friends with her for 13 years.
I'm open for suggestions on how to deal with these 2 situations since my MOH is not helping me and my other bridesmaids are too afraid to say anything.