My FI is from a different state, and I am struggling with where to have the wedding. I am currently thinking of having a cermony and reception in my home state, and then having a party to celebrate the following weekend in his home state. I would invite everyone to the wedding (knowing that many won't come from out of town) and then invite everyone from his state to the party the following weekend. Is this acceptable? Would I need to invite everyone that is invited to the wedding to the party or is it okay just to invite friends and family from his home state? Could I invite other people from his home state to the party but not the actual wedding (for example more distant relatives)? And is it acceptable/appropriate to include an extra card in the invitation for those in his home state that says something along the lines of "For our friends in X, we'll be celebrating with a party the following saturday" so people know they will have a chance to celebrate with us even if they can't make it to the wedding? I just want everyone to be happy, and am finding it overwhelming!