My mother is convinced that having ushers that are not also standing up at the altar with you during the ceremony is rude. I thought asking people to be usher was what you did when you had someone who you wanted to include, but who you weren't quite close enough to to ask them to be in the bridal party. My mom thinks FI and I made this whole concept up, that it's gauche, and that we're offending the people who we asked to be ushers.... one of whom is my brother. She thinks that if we don't have my brother standing up at the altar, we're shunning him. My brother and FI are not close, (my brother and I aren't close) so we figured this was a good way to have him be involved. Thoughts? Comments? Queries? WWEPD? (What Would Emily Post Do?)