Hello all... I believe this is the correct board for this but if it isnt, politely let me know and I will move it.
This is a what would you do post. I am getting married next May. I have a strange family situation. I do not have that good of a relationship with my dad and his side of the family. They are not contributing anything to the wedding because I feel they (they meaning my step mother) has an ulterior motive for wanting to give money. She has been going on and on about throwing me a bridal shower. I told her that I was pretty sure it was my bridal party's job. She shrugged off what I said but didnt say anything about it. Now, she has reached out to my FI mother about throwing me a shower in PA, WI, and GA (family in these areas). My FI mom kinda shrugged it off and said they didnt have to talk about it so far before the wedding. SHE EVEN BOUGHT A BRIDAL SHOWER ETIQUETTE BOOK! Now, I get a phone call from her and saying that my older sister (whom I've met once) wants to throw me a shower in WI because she wont be able to make it to the wedding. THEN my step mother began rattling off all of these family members from my dad's side that I have either met once or never met or not related that would come to the showers in WI and GA because they probably wouldnt be able to come to the wedding. I WASNT PLANNING ON INVITING THEM. I dont know what to do and I want to rip my hair out and I really shouldnt.
How do I tell her it's not her job to throw me a bridal shower, its my bridal party's job AND that I wasnt planning on inviting dad's side of the family to the wedding? She is already going to be pissed off because she had made it a point to tell me that my dad is going to walk me down the aisle. I am not going to have him walk me down the aisle. I was in foster care and I was planning on having my foster father walk me down the aisle. Ive known my real father for about 7 years and during that time he hasnt really played a big part in my life. My foster father I have known for 8 years and he has played a HUGE part in me turning my life around. But now I dont think I'm going to have anyone walk me down the aisle because I dont need that drama. AND she is probably going to be pissed off because I am not going to have her daughter be a bridesmaid. She is my half sister and I really am not close to her.
What do I do?
It just makes me want to cry.