Beebees (is it just me?)

Heffalump · May 2013

Admittedly, I'm on and off the board a lot, but does there seem to be an uptick in beebees since the latest round of changes? It's pretty entertaining, but at the same time, there seems to be an awful lot of "I don't like your advice, here's what you should have told me." But I guess that's an essential part of beebeeism.

Anyway, I'm enjoying them.

PMeg819 · May 2013

I agree.

ashleyp0420 · May 2013

It may not be that the poster doesn't "like the advice" but more so that they don't like how the advice was delivered.

I'm new and not trying to start any tiffs but I've read a few posts and also commented on a few as well and noticed that sometimes a person's reply has come over very snarky and or rude.

I had one person come across as rude when they replied to my very first post and when I asked that they not reply anymore if they had nothing positive or constructive to add I was told by another poster that I wasn't allowed to tell people they can't respond. Some people may not realize it (or care for that matter) but they are chasing people away from posting...I'm thinking that this would not be what the knot wants nor intended when they began this forum.

I think it goes back to the old saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all!" People are coming to this part of the knot for advice and to vent, not be feel worse about there situation.

Just saying

Heffalump · May 2013

Case in point. ^^^

Just keep digging, Ashley. Keep digging.

PMeg819 · May 2013

::eye roll:: You are entitled to your opinion. You are not entitled to tell others how to give their opinion. Also, when you give 500 words or less on your situation to strangers, you are going to get the raw opinion of strangers. Here's the thing- the Internet doesn't have to be a nice place because you think it should be. Go visit other message boards (non wedding related) and see what it's like. The other factor that comes into play is that some people use an Internet persona that is brash- not everyone- and it can come across as harsh.

ReturnOfKuus · May 2013

Ashley is oddly non-silent, despite the fact that she has nothing nice to say about hmonkey's responses.

alikatt17 · May 2013

If people only lurked for just a few minutes, they'd see that this wedding board does not discuss wedding shizz. And that we're bitches.

GBCK · May 2013

ReturnOfKuus · May 2013

BRUCE CAMPBELL!

dharmabunny · May 2013

I'm sure there's some lovely individuals on 4Chan that would appreciate you far more than us hagathas.

ashleyp0420 · May 2013

Your right, I don't have anything nice to say about Hmonkey or that persons responses to my post. I'm just responding to you all the same way some of you responded to me.

Seems like the majority of you have been long married and are now lurking in a forum that doesn't so much pertain to your current lives any longer.

If I wanted advice from a older person who has been married a while I would ask my mother. I'm pretty sure this forum is called wedding woes and is directed to give future brides a place to talk amongst one another. If you want a forum to talk about tv shows, who did what this weekend and whatever else YOU should be on a different site.

I'm no stranger to blogs and have been a part of a certain one for over 3 years. NEVER have I come across a group of women who have treated others so poorly. Again it's not that I nor someone else may not like what you have to say, it's all in your delivery.

ReturnOfKuus · May 2013

So don't say anything if you don't have anything nice to say... unless someone else did it first? That's true virtue right there.

Look, Ashley, you don't get to set the tone and parameters here. It's not the newly-created Ashley board. You came into an already functioning social group with its own values and norms, and not only complained that they weren't what you expected, but have the hubris to demand that you get to determine who is and isn't here and how those here should behave. Has this tactic ever worked in your life, anywhere?

Grow up.

DixieNormous330 · May 2013

ashleyp0420 said:

Your right, I don't have anything nice to say about Hmonkey or that persons responses to my post. I'm just responding to you all the same way some of you responded to me.
Seems like the majority of you have been long married and are now lurking in a forum that doesn't so much pertain to your current lives any longer.
If I wanted advice from a older person who has been married a while I would ask my mother. I'm pretty sure this forum is called wedding woes and is directed to give future brides a place to talk amongst one another. If you want a forum to talk about tv shows, who did what this weekend and whatever else YOU should be on a different site.
I'm no stranger to blogs and have been a part of a certain one for over 3 years. NEVER have I come across a group of women who have treated others so poorly. Again it's not that I nor someone else may not like what you have to say, it's all in your delivery.

1) we aren't the lurkers, dear. We are the regs.
2) we're long married and realize that there is more to marriage than 1 day.
3) this isn't a blog.

mrsconn23 · May 2013

I think we need this:

SBmini · May 2013

Haters are gunna hate.

I am the only female moderator of a webforum with half a million members. Most of them are male and under the age of 25. I've growth a thick skin to deal with the hate I get as a lady in the men's den. But some of the women here make those guys look lovable.

But I also see the exact opposite here of people who only try to please. Threads about helping to decide between two dresses and people respond, "buy them both!" or threads about who to include in the wedding party have comments like "include them all!" so there is definitely enough sweet people around here to balance out the haters.

VarunaTT · May 2013

SBmini said:

Threads about helping to decide between two dresses and people respond, "buy them both!" or threads about who to include in the wedding party have comments like "include them all!" so there is definitely enough crazy people around here that the smack of common sense from regulars is completely necessary.

There, fixed it for you.

thejucheidea · May 2013

ashleyp0420 said:

Your right, I don't have anything nice to say about Hmonkey or that persons responses to my post. I'm just responding to you all the same way some of you responded to me.

Seems like the majority of you have been long married and are now lurking in a forum that doesn't so much pertain to your current lives any longer.

If I wanted advice from a older person who has been married a while I would ask my mother. I'm pretty sure this forum is called wedding woes and is directed to give future brides a place to talk amongst one another. If you want a forum to talk about tv shows, who did what this weekend and whatever else YOU should be on a different site.

I'm no stranger to blogs and have been a part of a certain one for over 3 years. NEVER have I come across a group of women who have treated others so poorly. Again it's not that I nor someone else may not like what you have to say, it's all in your delivery.

... BAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWW

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