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Bridal Shower...who helps pay?

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Re: Bridal Shower...who helps pay?

  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    scscott06 said:
    Thanks! I feel like I'm a good MOH besides that hiccup that happened. :)
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    You offer to host, you pay. If someone offers to chip in after the fact, decide if you want to accept. It's inappropriate to bill someone for something to which they did not agree to contribute. 

    Honestly, I would mend fences with these ladies or the wedding might be awkward and not fun due to this misunderstanding/faux pas. Just apologize and be really honest.. Like, "Hey ladies, really sorry about asking you for money - I totally got this one wrong. I realize I offered to host and that ya'll didn't agree to co-hosting, so I apologize for assuming we were splitting the cost. I'm very embarrassed. You totally don't owe me anything and I hope you can forgive me for this etiquette hiccup. I am looking forward to standing up for (brides name) with you soon!"
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    This post makes me happy. I think you are on the right track, OP.

    However, I would let the other BP ladies know that dinner will be at a BYOB and you're only bringing enough for you and the Bride. Don't feel like you have to have everyone's glasses full.
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  • scscott06scscott06 member
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    I did apologize Southernbelle (see previous responses). They haven't directly said anything like, thanks for apologizing, but have been pretty friendly via email so I think it's going to be alright.


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  • scscott06scscott06 member
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    RetreadBride said:
    Don't beat yourself up too much.  The wedding industry causes this kind of debacle by publishing those horrid lists of bridesmaid duties.  The tv bridal shows and their "this is all about the bride!" plots are worse.

    THANK YOU! I needed that.  Because seriously, all my friends (and not friends!) that they have only had my experience splitting the cost of the shower as a bridesmaid.

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    Such a dichotomy of opinions!
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