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Re: Mother-In-Law Help

  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Yes, move on. If she wanted to help, she would be helping. Baby is trumping wedding here. Sorry. 
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  • MayberryAfterMidnightMayberryAfterMidnight member
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    cmalork said:
    That makes the most sense to me. I am just the type of person that I don't want her to feel left out. If she doesn't want to be involved then I guess I will have to live with that and move on.

    I think it's really nice that you want to involve her. As PPs have said, invite her to go shopping with you, ask if she'd like to help you pick out invites/decorations, etc. If she doesn't, so be it. But at least you'll know you tried to involve her. Also, I would recommend your FI talk with his parents privately about how he's feeling. Make sure he doesn't frame it as baby vs. wedding, but more about his actual emotions - and also don't get involved in it, it's just between him and his parents. If he doesn't want to, that's fine too, but it sounds like he's really hurting and FILs may sincerely not realize how they're behaving or how it's being perceived. 
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  • cmalorkcmalork member
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    @MayberryAfterMidnight: Thanks for the advice. :) This really helps!
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  • SJM7538SJM7538 member
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    AddieL73 said:

    Yes, move on. If she wanted to help, she would be helping. Baby is trumping wedding here. Sorry. 


    Ditto this. My fiancé proposed two weeks after my nephews were born four days apart. A few weeks after my mom wanted to get everyone together for dinner to celebrate our engagement. I was really excited and happy. When dinner rolled around my sister and sister in law would be asking questions about the wedding and of course I was excited to share, but any time either of the babies made a peep all the fuss was about the babies and no one even really seemed to care that we were getting together to celebrate our engagement. Not going to lie it hurt a little but baby pretty much always trumps wedding.

    One day vs getting ready for watching a lifetime of your grand kids grow up... Baby will always trump wedding. And that's okay. You're FMIL will be there the day of your wedding and be excited and happy for you then. She doesn't have to be giddy over it leading up to it.
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