Is anyone else just getting the paperwork out of the way and planning a real wedding for later?

banana468 · June 2013

If you are, watch this video and tell me that the marriage license that you sign is "just paperwork."

http://www.upworthy.com/if-you-happen-across-this-couple-at-the-airport-please-give-them-a-hug-for-me

Do it. I dare you.

smalfrie19 · June 2013

Wow. That was beautiful! It must makes me angrier at all these people with their "speshul circumstance" PPD's

SlothGoals · June 2013

Thank you for sharing that, Banana! Such a powerful video.

keochan · June 2013

Thanks for sharing Banana, it was difficult not to tear up at work watching that

lyndausvi · June 2013

Beautifully done. So sad it had to be done.

QueerFemme · June 2013

this pisses me off. The video was beautiful, but it pisses me off that we are still dealing with this crap.

mstallae · June 2013

Made me tear up. So sad that in this day and age things like this are still an issue.

ohmrs2014 · June 2013

Beautiful video. I agree that it is horrible that we are still dealing with this. Hopefully it can all end in the near future with us being on the right side of history.

Amsdragonfly · June 2013

If marriage is legal in one state, it should be recognized by the country as marriage, even if other states don't allow it. That's bull that they are continuously separated.

silver0319 · June 2013

A beautiful couple and video, and such a strong message.

banana468 · June 2013

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=wyk4Qo2vCpA

That's the link to the You Tube video.

banana468 · June 2013

It makes me SO sad that every couple doesn't have the same rights that my husband and I do. I can't believe that this is still debated.

CarolinaHeart · June 2013

-MISSING HUSBAND-

@stagemanager14

Kristin789 · June 2013

Totally agree with previous posters, but the New Zealand guy should apply for dual citizenship with the U.S., or give up NZ to become an American, and then he would be a U.S. citizen ON HIS OWN.

lyndausvi · June 2013

Kristin789 said:

Totally agree with previous posters, but the New Zealand guy should apply for dual citizenship with the U.S., or give up NZ to become an American, and then he would be a U.S. citizen ON HIS OWN.

what are you talking about?

Jen4948 · June 2013

What a sad story.

allispain · June 2013

Such a sad situation! The fact the laws are still being made in this day and age specifically to discriminate against certain people is simply horrible.

jenn5628 · June 2013

Kristin789 said:

Totally agree with previous posters, but the New Zealand guy should apply for dual citizenship with the U.S., or give up NZ to become an American, and then he would be a U.S. citizen ON HIS OWN.

Plus, I'm pretty sure he's from the UK not NZ... but you know, I'm sure you watched it carefully.

keochan · June 2013

Kristin789 said:

Totally agree with previous posters, but the New Zealand guy should apply for dual citizenship with the U.S., or give up NZ to become an American, and then he would be a U.S. citizen ON HIS OWN.

My FI is an immigrant, he had to reside in the States for years before being ELIGIBLE for citizenship, and even still it costs hundreds of dollars to apply and go through the process.

QueerFemme · June 2013

keochan said:

Kristin789 said:

Totally agree with previous posters, but the New Zealand guy should apply for dual citizenship with the U.S., or give up NZ to become an American, and then he would be a U.S. citizen ON HIS OWN.

My FI is an immigrant, he had to reside in the States for years before being ELIGIBLE for citizenship, and even still it costs hundreds of dollars to apply and go through the process.

I don't know who your immigration attorney is, but you need a new one. Of course there is a fee to apply for legal status , but if you are marrying an American, it does not take years to obtain legal spousal status. It can take up to 3 years to obtain citizenship, but your husband could still stay in the country. You can obtain a fiancé visa as long as you plan to marry within 90 days. Once you marry, your spouse can stay in the country while their green card, or application for permanent residence is processed.

A gay couple never has that option.

keochan · June 2013

We aren't married yet, the wedding is in a year, he's been here for 12 years. He is a permanent resident currently, but has to either renew or get his citizenship by February. The only reason they came over as quickly as they did was because his mom married an American. It is still a process and I never said anything about the gay couple. I was just pointing out that you can 'just' get dual citizenship.

Its complete crap that gay couples are denied these basic rights everyone else gets simply because they're gay.

QueerFemme · June 2013

keochan said:

We aren't married yet, the wedding is in a year, he's been here for 12 years. He is a permanent resident currently, but has to either renew or get his citizenship by February. The only reason they came over as quickly as they did was because his mom married an American. It is still a process and I never said anything about the gay couple. I was just pointing out that you can 'just' get dual citizenship.

Its complete crap that gay couples are denied these basic rights everyone else gets simply because they're gay.

Ahhh, I misunderstood your post. I apologize for that. I thought you were saying you couldn't get him legal status (FI/Marriage) and that takes years (it doesn't).

keochan · June 2013

cmgilpin said:

keochan said:

We aren't married yet, the wedding is in a year, he's been here for 12 years. He is a permanent resident currently, but has to either renew or get his citizenship by February. The only reason they came over as quickly as they did was because his mom married an American. It is still a process and I never said anything about the gay couple. I was just pointing out that you can 'just' get dual citizenship.

Its complete crap that gay couples are denied these basic rights everyone else gets simply because they're gay.

Ahhh, I misunderstood your post. I apologize for that. I thought you were saying you couldn't get him legal status (FI/Marriage) and that takes years (it doesn't).

It's cool, I was just making a point about obtaining citizenship when spousal ties ARENT in the equation, I should have been more clear.

QueerFemme · June 2013

Kristin789 said:

Totally agree with previous posters, but the New Zealand guy should apply for dual citizenship with the U.S., or give up NZ to become an American, and then he would be a U.S. citizen ON HIS OWN.

you are famous for commenting about things you know nothing about.

QueerFemme · June 2013

keochan said:

cmgilpin said:

keochan said:

We aren't married yet, the wedding is in a year, he's been here for 12 years. He is a permanent resident currently, but has to either renew or get his citizenship by February. The only reason they came over as quickly as they did was because his mom married an American. It is still a process and I never said anything about the gay couple. I was just pointing out that you can 'just' get dual citizenship.

Its complete crap that gay couples are denied these basic rights everyone else gets simply because they're gay.

Ahhh, I misunderstood your post. I apologize for that. I thought you were saying you couldn't get him legal status (FI/Marriage) and that takes years (it doesn't).

It's cool, I was just making a point about obtaining citizenship when spousal ties ARENT in the equation, I should have been more clear.

that makes total sense now. Yes, unless there is a family sponsorship (parent, spouse, etc.) obtaining US status is a huge pain in the ass and can take a decade and you have to hope you win the damn green card lottery, unless you have some marketable skill and some employer wants to sponsor you.

Viczaesar · June 2013

Kristin789 said:

Totally agree with previous posters, but the New Zealand guy should apply for dual citizenship with the U.S., or give up NZ to become an American, and then he would be a U.S. citizen ON HIS OWN.

It continues to amaze me - though it shouldn't at this point - how out of touch you are with reality.

CLoGreenEyes · June 2013

What a sad thing to watch. Saying good-bye for a day or two - hell, sometimes even just a few hours - is hard enough with someone you love. I cannot imagine doing this every 90 days for who knows what period of time. It is so wrong that some folks don't have anything better to worry about than keeping gay couples, even married ones, from enjoying the same privileges as straight couples. Some things in the world are difficult to fix, but this should be an EASY one.

lyndausvi · June 2013

Viczaesar said:

Kristin789 said:

Totally agree with previous posters, but the New Zealand guy should apply for dual citizenship with the U.S., or give up NZ to become an American, and then he would be a U.S. citizen ON HIS OWN.

It continues to amaze me - though it shouldn't at this point - how out of touch you are with reality.

I want to add for having a PH D in education it's sad that you didn't know the flag was a Union Jack aka Britain's flag, not New Zealand's.

bunni727 · June 2013

Maybe Kristin's New Zealand confusion came from a picture where the New Zealand sign was visible in an airport picture.

lyndausvi · June 2013

bunni727 said:

Maybe Kristin's New Zealand confusion came from a picture where the New Zealand sign was visible in an airport picture.

Maybe? But pretty early on in the video had both of them with flags under their pictures to show they are from different countries.

anysunrise1 · June 2013

Kristin789 said:

Totally agree with previous posters, but the New Zealand guy should apply for dual citizenship with the U.S., or give up NZ to become an American, and then he would be a U.S. citizen ON HIS OWN.

Good news, everyone! Kristin just solved the immigration crisis. It's so simple. Why don't they just BECOME CITIZENS? WHY DID NO ONE EVER THINK OF THIS?

Is anyone else just getting the paperwork out of the way and planning a real wedding for later?

Re: Is anyone else just getting the paperwork out of the way and planning a real wedding for later?

-MISSING HUSBAND-

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