I have a slight dilemma and am need of really clever advice.
My future sister-in-law is autistic, 26 years old. There was a falling out with another family member over the fact that the bride in a previous wedding said that her wedding "wouldn't be perfect" if she went along with including my future SIL. Of course, I want her to be involved in my wedding and to wear a bridesmaids dress. I don't see her walking down the aisle without having a melt down, and I don't want her itching her crotch on the altar either, but I want it to be known that I want her involved in other ways. What are some ways I can do this and SAY this without coming off rude or insensitive?
As always, thank you in advance for your advice!