Looking for advice on how to handle the situation with my dad, not necessarily more song selections.
We have been going back and forth for months about our father/daughter dance song. We're very close and have a good relationship, and our dance is a moment he's really looking forward to.
That said...he keeps persisting with suggestions of really slow, sappy songs. It doesn't take much to make me cry, but I like to be private about it and really don't want to break down in front of all the wedding guests, which his musical choices would definitely cause me to do. When I realized he was going down this track, I explained this to him. But I don't think he gets it, because every time he goes back to the drawing board, he suggests more of the same tearjerker stuff. I've found a few songs that I think are still sweet and touching, but are less likely to put me in the "danger zone." Like "Forever Young" by Rod Stewart.
So last week he sent me his top 5 choices, and his #4 and #5 are more upbeat. So I was like, great, can we use #4 (Father and Daughter, Paul Simon)? and he agreed...only to email me yesterday and say he thought 4 and 5 were a little fast and might be hard to dance to, and "didn't you listen to my #1 choice, what do you think of that?" Argh! Of course I listened to it, and if I wanted to dance to it, I would have told you so. At least FI is on my side and agrees it's odd that my dad keeps trying to make me change my mind.
I'm just really frustrated at this point. My mom says "just do the song your dad wants, you're both going to be crying anyway!" which may end up being true, but I want to give myself a fighting chance, you know? I have a younger sister, but am his first daughter getting married. I feel like a bad person for not liking my dad's song selection, because I know this is going to be a really sentimental moment for him and he wants to turn the cheese up to 11 (his first suggestion way back when was Butterfly Kisses, if that gives you an idea of his taste). But don't my preferences count too? I really thought the Paul Simon song was the best of both worlds, but apparently he doesn't agree.
TL:DR version: father keeps pushing for a sappy song and won't drop it, but I want something more uptempo that won't make me burst into tears in front of everyone. Am I being selfish? Should I just do what he wants because it's his precious "goodbye little girl" moment?