This is kind of long, sorry! I'm feeling frustrated this Saturday morning! Hah, I know none of these things are a big deal in the grand scheme of things, but I think the stress of figuring out the details is getting to me, so I'm going to rant for a bit.
FI has a cousin that we invited. We invited him with his gf and his two kids. On the RSVP card, we indicated that we had reserved four seats in their honor. We got it back a month ago or so and it said on it this: "Maybe 6. Don't know."
So of course I had a minor bridezilla moment over this for two reasons: First, if you "don't know", why did you send back the RSVP card? The point of RSVPing is to let me know FOR SURE. Not sending the card back implies that you don't know. Don't send back the RSVP just to say maybe because then we will have to contact you about it again anyway. I thought that was really dumb. The second reason was that we included the kids, who the f could he possibly want to add??!! FI had no idea so he called his mom and apparently his gf has two kids too, but they don't live with her and they have never been at any family function so we had no idea they existed. I felt terrible that we hadn't invited them so I let the adding of 2 seats slide because had I known they existed, they would have been invited. (I'm a little irritated the FMIL didn't tell us about them when we were creating the guest list though).
Anyway, weeks pass and I tell FI to contact his cousin again. He left a voicemail saying, "hey man! We are working on getting our final head count to the caterer because it's due in a few days. We were just wondering who you were planning on bringing for sure and what their names are. Let me know when you can." He texts my FI back and gives us the names but still says he doesn't know who is coming for sure and who isn't. Seriously, this is irritating me way more than it should...people just need to make up their minds.
Then my second frustration is a friend of FI's who hadn't rsvp'd, so FI texted him and messaged him and the friend just kept ignoring him so we figured he was a no, but then he finally sends something back that says, "honestly i dont know"
FIGURE IT OUT PEOPLE. /rant