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AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

Spend $1700.00 on 64 gorgeous designer customized invites, including everything from Addressing RSVP cards and outside envelopes with guests names and addresses, stamping them, etc. and how did you feel about them? Any regrets?

bakerie · June 2013

[Deleted User] · June 2013

Nope. Seems pretty steep for only 64 invites.

manateehugger · June 2013

Nope. Invitations go right in the trash as soon as the wedding is over for 90% of your guests. And no one will really care what your wedding invitations look like.

I'd rather spend money on an open bar or a dress.

bunni727 · June 2013

Nope. I made mine myself: that counts as custom designed, right?

mlg78 · June 2013

For $1,700 they better be bedazzled and delivered in person by some fancy schmany person.

That's nuts to spend that much.

AddieCake · June 2013

Fuck no.

Maggie0829 · June 2013

Hell to the no. Invites get thrown in the trash no matter how gorgeous and expensive they are. That means your $1700 is literally being thrown in the garbage.

For $1700 I expect the invitation to look like those for the bridal shower in the movie Bridesmaid, butterfly and all!

kks4471 · June 2013

I love stationary, but I think that is way too much to spend on so few invitations.

AJuliaNJ · June 2013

Yes, as long as they were gorgeous. As long as it wasn't going to pull from the budget for more important things like food, drinks, or a DJ and it wouldn't put you in debt, why not?

If you do this you definitely can't scrimp on food or have a cash bar or an iPod as DJ. People will talk. Invitations should reflect the formality of the event.

HisGirlFriday13 · June 2013

Holy baby Jeebus, no effing way. You want to spend $1,700 for 64 invites -- which works out to $26.5 per invite. My entire RECEPTION is costing less, per person, than that. And, FWIW, I designed our invites myself, including addressing all the cards IN CALLIGRAPHY.

manateehugger · June 2013

I sort of agree with the "if it fits your budget" posts. But you really have to think of your guests. I'd be pissed if I got a $27 invite to your wedding, but then only got a small plate of spaghetti and red sauce and limited bar options, you know?

Even if I had an unlimited budget, however, I personally don't think I could spend so much on something people inevitably throw away and barely remember. People do remember a dress, decor, food, and alcohol. So that's what I'd rather spend my money on.

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

It is included in my budget. I am not breaking the bank for them... open bar all night, seated plated dinner, the whole nine...Im sure my guest will be very well fed and thirst quenched. And YES they actually have rhinestones on them.And I have to disagree not everyone throws away their invite as soon as they get it. I know plenty of ppl including myself that saves them, especially when its someone close to you.

thank you for the ladies that support it

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

They do have rhinestones so that counts as "bedazzled" right?

NYCMercedes · June 2013

AlmostaMrs12 said:

It is included in my budget. I am not breaking the bank for them... open bar all night, seated plated dinner, the whole nine...Im sure my guest will be very well fed and thirst quenched. And YES they actually have rhinestones on them.And I have to disagree not everyone throws away their invite as soon as they get it. I know plenty of ppl including myself that saves them, especially when its someone close to you.

thank you for the ladies that support it

You don't want to thank ALL the ladies that took time to answer your question?

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

NYCMercedes said:

AlmostaMrs12 said:

It is included in my budget. I am not breaking the bank for them... open bar all night, seated plated dinner, the whole nine...Im sure my guest will be very well fed and thirst quenched. And YES they actually have rhinestones on them.And I have to disagree not everyone throws away their invite as soon as they get it. I know plenty of ppl including myself that saves them, especially when its someone close to you.

thank you for the ladies that support it

You don't want to thank ALL the ladies that took time to answer your question?

MyNameIsNot · June 2013

Not a flipping chance. It wouldn't matter if I could afford it or not. I wouldn't spend $26 for an invitation on principle. I also would never spend $5,000 for a pair of shoes. It doesn't matter if I can afford it or not. I just can't throw money around that excessively.

Plenty of people are perfectly fine blowing money like that. If you have the money, you can spend it how you like. But there's no way in hell I would.

libby2483 · June 2013

No way. If you have the money and desire, go for it. But even if my wedding budget had been triple what it was, there is no way I would have spent that much on invitations.

mlg78 · June 2013

I've never saved an invitation past an event date... The only one I plan on doing that for is my own. I think that's fairly typical.

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

Not all of you ladies. I appreciate the its up to me replies=)

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

CMGr said:

"Money comes and goes."

Yes, but it is nice when you can hang on to some of it to save for future needs - like a college education for your child?

I have a two year old and he has his own account since he was 6 months. We are very wise with money, Saved for two years and now are able to splurge on this one day. My fiance and I are hard working and we like to enjoy the money we make. We do put our child first. Please do not pass judgement.

MoxieMickie · June 2013

AlmostaMrs12 said:

LOL. Thanks ladies. Good thing its not your money nor your decision. Just wanted some advice, but obviously there are bridezillas here. Good thing I have thick skin! Now, let me tend to my two year old and fiance, and you ladies can go ahead and rip eachother apart. Some of your posts are beyond horrid, or at least your answers. I have decided to have my dream wedding along with my fiance and whatever we want is going to happen. The average wedding now is about $27,000. So, that number alone is crazy. but its happening. I only plan to get married once. Money comes and goes. Have a nice day

Not all of you ladies. I appreciate the its up to me replies=)

So you ask if people would spend a lot of money on invitations, hear a bunch of nos, and get upset that people would not choose to spend as much as you want to spend? Why did you ask what others would do, and what were you expecting to hear, a bunch of people expressing jealousy that even if they scrimped and saved for a decade they could not afford such expensive invitations?

JoanE2012 · June 2013

AlmostaMrs12 said:

Spend $1700.00 on 64 gorgeous designer customized invites, including everything from Addressing RSVP cards and outside envelopes with guests names and addresses, stamping them, etc.

I wouldn't spend that. But there are many brides that wouldn't have spent what I spent on other things. It's all relative to your personal finances.

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

MoxieMickie said:

AlmostaMrs12 said:

LOL. Thanks ladies. Good thing its not your money nor your decision. Just wanted some advice, but obviously there are bridezillas here. Good thing I have thick skin! Now, let me tend to my two year old and fiance, and you ladies can go ahead and rip eachother apart. Some of your posts are beyond horrid, or at least your answers. I have decided to have my dream wedding along with my fiance and whatever we want is going to happen. The average wedding now is about $27,000. So, that number alone is crazy. but its happening. I only plan to get married once. Money comes and goes. Have a nice day

Not all of you ladies. I appreciate the its up to me replies=)

So you ask if people would spend a lot of money on invitations, hear a bunch of nos, and get upset that people would not choose to spend as much as you want to spend? Why did you ask what others would do, and what were you expecting to hear, a bunch of people expressing jealousy that even if they scrimped and saved for a decade they could not afford such expensive invitations?

Jealousy? Really? No. I was a little taken back of the "Fuck No" "Hell No" kinda stuff. Just seems there was really no reason to curse over that, but then again maybe that's just in some ppls vocabulary. I UNDERSTAND brides will NOT splurge on certain things, so for you to say I wanted brides to be jealous is absurd. I work with people for a living and try to help by hearing them out. I guess maybe I should have worded my question differently.."Has anyone spent that type of money on invites and how did you feel after it was all said and done" would have probably been the right question . I honestly just wanted to know how important invites are to other brides.
So, no I did not want to hear that anyone is jealous because they can't afford them. Jealous is such an ugly trait.

If you are looking for an arguement look elsewhere. Have a good night.

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

JoanE2012 said:

AlmostaMrs12 said:

Spend $1700.00 on 64 gorgeous designer customized invites, including everything from Addressing RSVP cards and outside envelopes with guests names and addresses, stamping them, etc.

I wouldn't spend that. But there are many brides that wouldn't have spent what I spent on other things. It's all relative to your personal finances.

Agreed. I watched a wedding show where the brides mom paid to rip out the carpet and have new carpet put in the venue! Gorgeous wedding, but wow!!! I think all brides def do have their must haves

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

snippet17 said:

AlmostaMrs12 said:

Spend $1700.00 on 64 gorgeous designer customized invites, including everything from Addressing RSVP cards and outside envelopes with guests names and addresses, stamping them, etc.

In my opinion that is a bit much for invites. I rather spend my money else where.

OP - you did ask people's opinions on if they would spend that much. Most people were not snarky towards you until you started to be snarky towards them.

I maybe did come off a little snarky, but the whole "fuck no" "hell no" kinda made me think otherwise. It wasn't my intentions. It was just a question. I probably worded it wrong. I really wanted to know if anyone has done it and if they had any regrets afterwards...

But yes all of us brides have different ways of splurging. The beauty of planning a wedding

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

CMGr said:

No one is passing judgement on you. You DID ASK!!!

Would you....

Spend $1700.00 on 64 gorgeous designer customized invites, including everything from Addressing RSVP cards and outside envelopes with guests names and addresses, stamping them, etc.

You are right. I did. Have a good night!

KDM323 · June 2013

I, personally, would not.

But one of my friends spent this (and more) on hers. Her invitations were GORGEOUS. I think she had them custom made by a local artist (the design) and then paid someone else to do the caligraphy on the inner/outer envelopes, etc...so it was pricey.

I'd love to see your invites!

AlmostaMrs12 · June 2013

I, personally, would not.

But one of my friends spent this (and more) on hers. Her invitations were GORGEOUS. I think she had them custom made by a local artist (the design) and then paid someone else to do the caligraphy on the inner/outer envelopes, etc...so it was pricey.

I'd love to see your invites!

I can imagine! Hers sound gorgeous!! I would love to share when they arrive which will be around beginning July!

LDubHawksFan · June 2013

MoxieMickie said:

AlmostaMrs12 said:

LOL. Thanks ladies. Good thing its not your money nor your decision. Just wanted some advice, but obviously there are bridezillas here. Good thing I have thick skin! Now, let me tend to my two year old and fiance, and you ladies can go ahead and rip eachother apart. Some of your posts are beyond horrid, or at least your answers. I have decided to have my dream wedding along with my fiance and whatever we want is going to happen. The average wedding now is about $27,000. So, that number alone is crazy. but its happening. I only plan to get married once. Money comes and goes. Have a nice day

Not all of you ladies. I appreciate the its up to me replies=)

So you ask if people would spend a lot of money on invitations, hear a bunch of nos, and get upset that people would not choose to spend as much as you want to spend? Why did you ask what others would do, and what were you expecting to hear, a bunch of people expressing jealousy that even if they scrimped and saved for a decade they could not afford such expensive invitations?

Good thing this was quoted. No one was rude to you, but it seems like a huge amount of money to spend on stationary. If I remember right, paper should be like 2% or less of your budget, so if you are having a $85k wedding, sure it seems appropriate. It sure isn't for a $27k wedding. Also that is an average which is higher. The median is more like $17k.

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