My mother is interested in throwing a shower in my honor, and inviting
her personal friends, neighbors, clients, and some of our family
members. I live in PA, and she lives in NE. I wouldn't be able to
travel back to my homestate for a shower, so she would like to throw
this shower with my presence through Skype. My fiancee and I have 130
guests on our guest list, and I anticipate that NONE of the friends my
mother would like to host at this shower will receive an actual invite
to the wedding-- we just don't have the budget for it, and there is no
such thing as a 'courtesy invite.' She, however, is a mother that lives
far away from her daughter, and genuinely wants to do something special
for me (which is very sweet). Will her friends and family (whose
daughters have been supported by my mom's presence at their local
weddings and/or showers) feel okay with this? Etiquette-wise, is this
arrangement acceptable?