Wedding Programs- what to call my "here comes the bride" sign holder?

Re: Wedding Programs- what to call my "here comes the bride" sign holder?

• ElisabethJoanne member

  

  January 2012

  Page? Herald?

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• britneebarnardhughes

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-programs-call-here-comes-bride-sign-holder?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:cd5596ce-9e83-4611-953d-b37c00d86f4bPost:5459ebdb-b4c8-4691-a82a-dbb61edf5c09">Re: Wedding Programs- what to call my "here comes the bride" sign holder?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I have no idea what you're talking about.  What is a 'here comes the bride' sign?  Don't you think the guests will know you're the bride?  Color me confused.
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  In some weddings additonal children can be incorporated by walking down the aisle with a "here comes the bride sign"  my cousin will be walking with another cousin who will ring a bell as he walks down.  Here are some googled pictures....
  
  
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• Tulip81

  

  January 2012

  I think it looks adorable!!!  I have seen other people do with and just name them as ring bearers/flower girls or a "page".  I am sure whatever you call them will be fine...giving them a special role in your wedding is the important part!

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• em01092 member

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-programs-call-here-comes-bride-sign-holder?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:cd5596ce-9e83-4611-953d-b37c00d86f4bPost:d45c5ae6-55d2-434a-bcbc-047a56c69a2e">Re: Wedding Programs- what to call my "here comes the bride" sign holder?</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding Programs- what to call my "here comes the bride" sign holder? : I guess most people are just used to the idea of a ring bearer.  We didn't have one, not because we thought it was silly, but because we didn't have anyone to do it.  We did have two flower girls, which I guess is equally as unnecessary, but at least it's common.   <strong>Not that it being common is a solid response to your question, but It's all I've got. </strong> I don't know.  There are so many silly traditions with weddings that adding yet another one just seems pointless to me.<strong>  And it's unnecessary AWing the brides march down the aisle.  Everyone's already going to be standing and looking at her.</strong>  I don't think the sign/bell ringing/yelling is that necessary or that cute.  But considering my response to this and the photographer thread on E, I might be in a bah humbug kind of mood tonight. 
  Posted by andrea2473[/QUOTE]<div>
  </div><div>I get what you're saying. I personally would not do it, as I already asked my cousin to be a RB, but I guess I'm less judgey about sign holding because, as I said, it's not that different to me when you break it down. But as for the bell ringing/yelling, I don't care for that as much as just a kid holding a sign. The bell would be annoying and probably not go with the processional song, and I will always say no to kids yelling anything. </div><div>
  </div><div>Now I am totally in agreement that too many people worry and try to come up with all these silly roles to make people included. Guest is just fine, but at least this isn't a sucky job like a guest book attendant or greeter, that is unless you do in fact consider RB/FG roles to be jobs more than honors or just otherwise pointless. Perhaps the OP was doing this sign holder business in lieu of a RB? That's what the pics above look like anyway. I'd say that if she has a page and no RB, then maybe she was just looking to do something different/new/unique? Or maybe she didn't want a RB because they don't acutally carry the real rings? Just speculating here. Idk. OP, come back!  
  
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• Meghannsix member

  

  January 2012

  I think it's sweet you have more kids than "traditional roles" that you want to include.  Way better than "trying to figure out" who to have as a FG/RB just because you think you have to have one.  I like page, I'm just not a big fan of the word herald, even though it's probably more fitting for the description.

  

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• tmteltoe

  

  April 2013

  Hi, I love this idea....I, too, am doing this in my wedding. We are not having a traditional wedding. Since we are having our wedding outside on our property (5 acres out back) the isle will already be covered in flowers but in effort to include BOTH of my only nieces I felt this sign would be great for my youngest niece, she is 8 years old. She is so excited that I asked her to be a part of the special day...she is also going to help make the sign so that it will be in HER hand writing!! I will have her listed in our program as the Page Princess and my other niece will be the ring bearer but we are changing that to Ring Princess and she will be carrying the actual rings. The 2 of us together are going to make a box that she will carry them in. Best wishes to you on your special day!! 

  
  

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• Stellarsheller member

  

  April 2013

  Mine are going to be called "Banner Attendants" 

  I am a firm believer in doing what makes you happy.

  " What is right isn't always popular, and what is popular isn't always right." - Albert Einstein

  Do what you love, and those who don't like it can deal with it. 

  
  

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• melissae79 member

  

  May 2013 edited May 2013

  I am doing the same for my wedding and am so glad you posted this question b/c I had the same one. I was thinking 'Escort' and maybe even 'Flower girl escorts' because the two boys will walk behind the ring bearer but in front of the flower girls. I like "banner attendant" too, but my sign says 'here come the bride' and is a wooden sign with rope on each side for the boys to hold, not exactly a banner. :-/ And to read all these comments that are rude annoys me. Some people are too opinionated, so ignore those people. I'm with you and love the signs in the wedding. Well good luck...and I'll pick one of these titles, but can't decide which at the moment.
  Let me know which you decide...maybe we can create a standard title for these new roles in weddings.
  
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  [QUOTE]Mine are going to be called "Banner Attendants"  I am a firm believer in doing what makes you happy. " What is right isn't always popular, and what is popular isn't always right." - Albert Einstein Do what you love, and those who don't like it can deal with it. 
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• LavenderLeah

  

  June 2013

  " Bride caller" I say
  

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  June 2013

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• jbouchard10132012 member

  

  June 2013

  Very adorable!! I'm including all my nieces/nephews (6 of them)- and referring to all of them as "Our Little Helpers" so that feelings don't get hurt and I'm not picking and choosing one over the other. If you are using just one child what about "Honorary Groomsmen"? 

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• Peledreamsofrain member

  

  June 2013

  Page, Herald, Banner Bearer, Sign Attendant, Procession Leader, Bridal Courier, Sign Runner, Proclaimator, Bridal Forerunner, Banner Attendant, etc.

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• JoanE2012 member

  

  June 2013

  melissae79 said:

  I am doing the same for my wedding and am so glad you posted this question b/c I had the same one. I was thinking 'Escort' and maybe even 'Flower girl escorts' because the two boys will walk behind the ring bearer but in front of the flower girls. I like "banner attendant" too, but my sign says 'here come the bride' and is a wooden sign with rope on each side for the boys to hold, not exactly a banner. :-/ And to read all these comments that are rude annoys me. Some people are too opinionated, so ignore those people. I'm with you and love the signs in the wedding. Well good luck...and I'll pick one of these titles, but can't decide which at the moment.
  Let me know which you decide...maybe we can create a standard title for these new roles in weddings.
  
  n Response to Re: Wedding Programs- what to call my "here comes the bride" sign holder?:
  [QUOTE]Mine are going to be called "Banner Attendants"  I am a firm believer in doing what makes you happy. " What is right isn't always popular, and what is popular isn't always right." - Albert Einstein Do what you love, and those who don't like it can deal with it. 
  Posted by Stellarsheller[/QUOTE]
  

  Ummm, just because someone disagrees with what you think is a wonderful idea doesn't mean it's rude. 

  
  

  Oh, and FWIW, I'm not a fan of a sign holder.  As PP's mentioned, you don't need to have a "job" for every child or include everyone.  Attending the wedding should be honor enough.

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• plumander member

  

  June 2013

  I don't think it is anyone's place to put down something that a bride has already decided to put in her wedding. You wouldn't comment on someone's recap photos and tell them that their colors are ugly. OP asked for a name for a position, not your opinion on said position.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2013 edited June 2013

  plumander said:

  I don't think it is anyone's place to put down something that a bride has already decided to put in her wedding. You wouldn't comment on someone's recap photos and tell them that their colors are ugly. OP asked for a name for a position, not your opinion on said position.

  Then you don't belong here on TheKnot, because it happens all the time-here and in real life. 
  
  It is entitled to expect everyone to agree with you, let alone give ideas about how to execute what someone may believe is not a good idea.  We are allowed to disagree with the OP's idea and even to say so.
  
  We also treat each other like adults.  We do not say to each other, "OP asked for X, not your opinion," because by the very act of posting, one does indeed ask for our opinion.
  
  And practice what you preach.  If you don't want others telling you how to post, don't do it yourself.
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2013 edited June 2013

  Oops, duplicate post.
  

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• dem068 member

  

  June 2013

  I think it is cute.  And that saying that "being a guest is an honor" means nothing to a child if they feel like they are left out.  I have 5 neices, and they all just assumed they would be in the wedding (one was seriously campaigning), so we made the oldest a BM and the 4 younger ones flower girls.  More than I would have wanted in my wedding party, but it made them so excited that it was totally worth it (one of them was trying on her dress at home and her mom told me that she refused to take it off)

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• JoanE2012 member

  

  June 2013

  plumander said:

  I don't think it is anyone's place to put down something that a bride has already decided to put in her wedding. You wouldn't comment on someone's recap photos and tell them that their colors are ugly. OP asked for a name for a position, not your opinion on said position.

  I've seen brides here decide things for their wedding, then after getting feedback from others that have no vested interest in their wedding, changed/eliminated/added whatever.  I find it wonderful to see different opinions and points of view!

  
  

  It's an open forum.  You cannot dictate how people post.  If you are that sensitive, perhaps a public internet forum is not the best place for you to be.
  

  
  

  
  

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• JoanE2012 member

  

  June 2013 edited June 2013

  dem068 said:

  I think it is cute.  And that saying that "being a guest is an honor" means nothing to a child if they feel like they are left out.  I have 5 neices, and they all just assumed they would be in the wedding (one was seriously campaigning), so we made the oldest a BM and the 4 younger ones flower girls.  More than I would have wanted in my wedding party, but it made them so excited that it was totally worth it (one of them was trying on her dress at home and her mom told me that she refused to take it off)

  I went to a few close family weddings when I was young.  I wasn't in any except for one.  If I complained about it, my parents probably told me no and to drop it.  I still got to wear a pretty dress.  I look like I'm having a blast in the photos.  I turned out fine.  The problem nowadays is that many kids don't hear 'no' enough and get whatever they want.  Then they grow up to be special snowflakes.

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• Jen4948 member

  

  June 2013 edited June 2013

  dem068 said:

  I think it is cute.  And that saying that "being a guest is an honor" means nothing to a child if they feel like they are left out.  I have 5 neices, and they all just assumed they would be in the wedding (one was seriously campaigning), so we made the oldest a BM and the 4 younger ones flower girls.  More than I would have wanted in my wedding party, but it made them so excited that it was totally worth it (one of them was trying on her dress at home and her mom told me that she refused to take it off)

  I was not in any wedding parties when I was a kid.  I attended my first wedding at age 11, as a guest.  And even if I got invited to a wedding when I was younger than that, I would have felt honored to be there, but I would not have appreciated being expected to carry a sign just because it's "cute."  Small kids do not always appreciate being used for their "cuteness" and in fact many hate it.
  

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  June 2013

  dem068 said:

  I think it is cute.  And that saying that "being a guest is an honor" means nothing to a child if they feel like they are left out.  I have 5 neices, and they all just assumed they would be in the wedding (one was seriously campaigning), so we made the oldest a BM and the 4 younger ones flower girls.  More than I would have wanted in my wedding party, but it made them so excited that it was totally worth it (one of them was trying on her dress at home and her mom told me that she refused to take it off)

  And this is the kind of thing that leads to this horrible sense of entitlement I am seeing in all the high school students I teach, as well as many adults.
  
  While they are children and you don't have to be rude about it. just because they WANT to do something, doesn't mean they should or can. Begging to be in a wedding (where you really didn't want to have all of them) and then just bending over and saying "Well, OK, because you WANT to do XYZ I will go ahead and let you" is just teaching them that they can and will always get their way about stuff. There is absolutely no reason you had to have them all in your wedding, and this is in no way a good defense for OP including kids in hers as banner attendants or whatever.
  
  Kids need to learn from an early age that they can't always do everything they want to or go everywhere they want to. They won't be traumatized forever, but instead, grow up maybe not so entitled. (I'm not saying the kids in your wedding are, but that it's actions like this that can lead to a sense of entitlement). If you truly wanted all those kids in the wedding, great. But it sounds like you didn't and just rolled over and let them have their way. Would you do that if your adult friends were all bargaining to be in the WP too? Same thing.
  

  
  
  
  
  

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