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Monetary Gifts

MedStudent13MedStudent13 member
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Hi all!

I'd ask this question on the etiquette board but I really don't want to deal with their snark right now. Does anyone know if it is good/bad form to cash monetary gifts before the wedding? 

Thanks!
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  • lalaith50lalaith50 member
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    I think you're supposed to deposit them, but "technically" you should actually "have" the money in case it needs to be returned. (as in, don't use them to pay for the money and have nothing left in your account!)
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  • MedStudent13MedStudent13 member
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    Ah, ok. I was torn because my parents have been spreading the word that we prefer cash gifts for our 'honeymoon fund' (although the honeymoon is already paid for), so if the gifts are for that then of course they would need to be cashed before the wedding. But then again, I also feel awkward depositing them immediately after they are received...
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  • bibliophile2010bibliophile2010 member
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    Lots of people prefer that you cash checks sooner rather than later so that they don't have outstanding checks on their accounts, can manage their finances, etc. I agree that as long as you don't "spend" it so that you could repay it if something were to happen, you're fine.
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  • tiny specktiny speck member
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    Just be sure to send a thank you card right away, and as others said don't actually spend the money until after the wedding.
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  • lalaith50lalaith50 member
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    (oops. I meant "dont use them to pay for the wedding")
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  • professorscienceprofessorscience member
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    bibliophile2010 said:
    Lots of people prefer that you cash checks sooner rather than later so that they don't have outstanding checks on their accounts, can manage their finances, etc. I agree that as long as you don't "spend" it so that you could repay it if something were to happen, you're fine.
    Agree with this.  It drives me crazy when a check doesn't clear soon after I write it.
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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    The only issue we had before the wedding was when guests wrote out the checks to "Mr and Mrs Newlastname".

    We did have a joint account already set up, so the bank was able to work some magic so we could deposit them (though it took forever).

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    itzMS said:

    The only issue we had before the wedding was when guests wrote out the checks to "Mr and Mrs Newlastname".

    We did have a joint account already set up, so the bank was able to work some magic so we could deposit them (though it took forever).

    Really?  We had nooo problem with this.  We thought it would be an issue, but I don't think the banks took a second look.  I didn't get around to even changing my name on my bank account until the summer after we were married!
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  • erin5286erin5286
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    Any checks that were made out to Erin AND Husband LastName had to be signed by my husband, then by me (with ID as well), then they let us deposit them into H's abank account.  It wasn't too big of a deal, but definitely made me vow that if I ever give checks for a wedding gift, I will make it out to only one of the couple.

    As to the original question, I agree that it's fine (and probably what the gift-giver would prefer) to cash the check right away, as long as you don't technically spend it until after the wedding.  We only got a few pre-wedding checks from family members, we cashed them right  away and just put it in savings.  We did send TY notes on those right away.

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  • itzMSitzMS member
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    professorscience said:
    itzMS said:

    The only issue we had before the wedding was when guests wrote out the checks to "Mr and Mrs Newlastname".

    We did have a joint account already set up, so the bank was able to work some magic so we could deposit them (though it took forever).

    Really?  We had nooo problem with this.  We thought it would be an issue, but I don't think the banks took a second look.  I didn't get around to even changing my name on my bank account until the summer after we were married!


    I think the issue was that we stupidly came in with all of the checks at once.

    They were written out in no less than six different fashions.

    Mr and Mrs Newlastname

    Mr and Mrs Sue and Bob Newlastname

    Mr and Mrs Bob Newlastname

    Bob and Sue Newlastname

    Sue Maidenname and Bob Newlastname

    Mr OR Mrs Newlastname

     

    Needless to say, it raised a few eyebrows.

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  • wittykitty14wittykitty14 member
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    I agree with PPs.

    Deposit/cash any checks as soon as you can, so that people can plan their finances accordingly.  Then send a thank you note, and use the money after the wedding.  :)

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