Hi Guys,
I don't think I've ever posted on here, but I lurk from time to time (and you guys were a great help while I was planning my own wedding) and thought you might have some advice and/or might let me vent for a minute. My H is at work for another hour and I need to get this off my chest. Cliff Notes are at the bottom and I apologize if I start to ramble--I've been up for way too long and am tired, lol.
About a year ago and a half ago I got back in touch with an old childhood friend of mine, E. We used to be neighbors and really good friends before we both ended up moving to different states. Anyways, about two months ago my H and I received a wedding invitation from E and his fiance. I thought the invitation itself was a little odd, (looked like just a half sheet of paper that they printed out at home, and there was no rsvp card, just a phone number to call and there was no address for the ceremony, it just said "at the ____ family home") but didn't think too much of it, I just figured they were on a budget so no big deal. We tried to call to rsvp, but I don't think the phone had a voicemail box setup (it just continuously played this annoying ringback song). I finally wrote E a Facebook message telling him that we would love to see him at the wedding and would be booking our flights soon (I also let him know about the phone issue), to which he replied that he couldn't wait to see us and said they had a room block at a local hotel.
Anyways, fast forward to today. H and I have everything booked for the trip. We have plane tickets, hotel rooms, car rental,and a pet-sitter coming to stay with our 6 pets. I send E another message saying "hey, I can't wait to see you! I've been meaning to ask for the address of the wedding so I can add it to my GPS tonight--don't want to get lost on my way there!
See you soon!" and in his reply he basically told me "hey don't worry if you don't have the address. We're actually not going to be getting married for another few weeks. We're just post-poning everything until then and we may not even be having it at my parents' house".
Now, I am just LIVID! (I rarely get ticked off, but this one did it). I understand that sometimes things come up and weddings need to be moved/postponed/whatever. But wouldn't you think to tell your guests what was going on, especially if they're going to be flying in from out of town and are spending several hundred dollars to get there? Ugh. What would you guys do in this situation? Is there anything we can do? I think I can talk to the hotel chain and cancel without them charging us a fee since I always stay at their hotels when I travel for work, but what about plane tickets? Is it even possible to cancel plane tickets less then 24 hrs of the flight? And it's too late for me to call the pet-sitter so I guess I'll have to call them in the morning and see what they say. I'm so upset right now I could scream. Anyways, what would you guys do in this situation? Would you try to recoup your money or do you think it's a lost cause?
Thanks for letting me vent and for any suggestions!
Cliff Notes: We're invited to a wedding out of town tomorrow night and have everything booked (plane, hotel, pet sitter, car rental, etc). Just found out tonight that the wedding is not going to proceed as planned, but we only found out about it because I sent the groom a Facebook message asking him for the address. Not sure if I should try to recoup the money we've already spent (several hundred dollars) or if it's just a lost cause because it's such short notice. Also, I've been up for over 24 hours and my brain is apparently not thinking clearly right now...