Blog response to the ungrateful brides who received a gift basket

AJuliaNJ · June 2013

Check this out: http://www.peopleiwanttopunchinthethroat.com/2013/06/the-lesbian-bridezillas.html. I love this blog and her response to this recent article.

NYCBruin · June 2013

The caption on the present just made me literally spit water out. Also this part sums up my feelings on the whole thing so nicely. I want to copy and paste it on every gift/cash grabby thread.

"Here's some advice for them: no one throws a wedding to get rich, you dolts. Who ever told you that is as dumb as you are. Also, if you can't pay for your party, then don't have it. When I receive a wedding invitation I assume I received it because the bride and groom (or bride and bride or groom and groom) have invited me because I am somehow special to this crew, not because I look like I'm good for $200 (minimum)."

TKzilla · June 2013

We got not one but TWO gift baskets from our college professor at the wedding. It was awesome. It was full of locally-made foods from a nearby town (where she's from) and it had all kinds of peanut-filled goodness including locally made peanut butter. DH was so excited but I think the dog is plotting on the PB...

BostonGIrl4732 · June 2013

I read the list of things that were included in that basket. Some of them were actually pretty expensive. Also, do you know how much a nice basket (large basket) goes for? I was going to register for a picnic basket, but they were all $100+ so I'm getting that on my own from somewhere cheaper. They could have gone the cheap way, but I hate how people assume that everything in the basket was fluff. It wasn't.

I would have LOVED that gift and thought it was super cute and creative.

cwaggoner07 · June 2013

For my hostesses at our out of state shower, I bought them small baskets filled with Texas-made goodies, and they loved it. I don't mean to pat myself on the back, but I thought it was an AWESOME gift. I love getting/giving food and wine because sometimes you don't need more STUFF, it's fun to eat or drink something different.

Wheels987 · June 2013

My go-to gift if I don't want to give cash is a mix of local wines from our area. Often the vineyards don't have large distribution yet and they're really good!

I always thought it was a thoughtful gift, but then one groom was ranting on fb how irritated he was that people didn't buy from their HM registry and then we didn't get a thank you card...

[Deleted User] · June 2013

Did the guest work with one of the brides at a restaurant? I guess I figured that especially since they worked together in a food-place, it was extra awesome for him to give a gift that reflected something that he knew about the couple (especially if there was no registry). But, then again, if someone gifts us something like that, I will be over the moon about it. (Candy and all.)

Gisellerina · June 2013

I think it's a horrible gift. I would be sad if someone gave it to me. Mostly because I love sour patches, but can't eat them (diabetic). But I would just thank the sender and then donate it to charity.

Gisellerina · June 2013

@LingerLonger1 and @jss0302 - I know the basket had other stuff. The sour patches were the only thing in the basket I would have liked (and I couldn't have eaten them). That's why in my opinion it's a horrible gift - not everyone has the same taste in gifts or food. Reasonable minds can differ on if this is a good gift or not - for some people, it would be an awesome gift, for others of us, it would be an awful gift.

And even though I would not like such a gift, I wouldn't be rude to the giver. I would just thank them and give it away.

Gisellerina · June 2013

@LingerLonger1 - Yes, I read the original post. Yes, I think the brides were rude. But, since so many people commented how "awesome" they found this gift (not for the brides, but for themselves), I thought it would be okay to post my opinion as well, even though mine is not the majority opinion.

I consider a "good gift" something the recipient is happy to receive - sometimes it involves a lot of time, thought, and energy to give a "good gift", but not always. I consider a "horrible gift" something the recipient does not enjoy. One person's good gift is another person's horrible gift.

Gisellerina · June 2013

@LingerLonger1 - It's impossible to be wrong on one's OPINION. Opinions are subjective, unlike facts, which are objective.

I do, however, think it is very possible to be wrong in one's behavior. And I would never not send someone a thank you card for a gift. And I would genuinely appreciate that someone thought enough of me to give me a gift. Even if it was a horrible gift that I subsequently donated. Such as a basket full of food that I do not like and/or can't eat.

Gisellerina · June 2013

@LingerLonger1 - I want other posters or later readers to know I was responding to you. Hence, I will continue to use the tagging feature in any future responses.

TKzilla · June 2013

Gisellerina said:

@LingerLonger1 - I want other posters or later readers to know I was responding to you. Hence, I will continue to use the tagging feature in any future responses.

Then try quoting Linger's comments and responding that way.

Gisellerina · June 2013

CourtaniaLynn - thanks for the suggestion - I thought tagging would be less annoying since it takes up less room than quoting. Then again, I've never had such a long discussion about something so random. Do most people prefer to not be tagged? (Like this response)?

I hate the whole quoting thing since it takes up so much space. (Unless there's a really good reason - like the whole "trashy" wedding poster. Then I'm appreciative of those who quote so the rest of us can enjoy reading the posts later!)

P.S. Love your photo - looks like you had a beautiful beach wedding!

Gisellerina · June 2013

jss0302 - I didn't mean I would keep tagging to be annoying/rude/whatever. I just thought the tagging was useful, by making it obvious when a response is a response to a certain person (especially for people who sometimes start at the end of a thread to see if it's interesting to read the whole thing from the beginning). Anyway, I'm sorry for being (indadvertently) rude to LingerLonger and anyone else with my tagging. That wasn't how I meant it, but I can see how it could have come across that way.

CourtaniaLynn and StageManager14 suggested the quote thing (I had thought that annoyed more people, but I was wrong). Anyway, I'm now just referencing people by name when I respond, rather than tagging. So, thanks all for the advice/corrections/feedback on tagging.

Gisellerina · June 2013

StageManager14 - maybe I have you confused with someone else? In any event, you are very helpful, so I'm very sorry for erroneously attributing a quote suggestion to you!

All this posting is making me hungry. And I still have a whole hour until lunchtime. Ugh.

TKzilla · June 2013

StageManager14 said:

You can write her name without tagging. LingerLonger, LingerLonger, LingerLonger! See?

Is that how you make Linger appear to you like Beetlejuice? :P

Jessa617 · June 2013

Late to the party... I think the blogger is wrong in the sense that it was a terrible gift. Other than that, yea people should never have a wedding to "make money".

With that said, out of all of our gifts (we got mostly cash and checks), my favorite was a homemade butcher block. It cost next to nothing because I know he has all the materials and tools needed to make it on hand, but it was such a thoughtful gift.

Jessa617 · June 2013

@LingerLonger1 : Yes I was saying the blogger is wrong for thinking that the basket was a terrible gift. I think thoughtful gifts are the best, hence the reason the butcher block was the favorite from my own wedding.

Pepper6 · June 2013

jss0302 said:

Honestly, I've never really given too much thought about regifting. Damn you two for making me think, it makes my head hurt!
In all seriousness, I appreciate hearing the other side to it. I can see where regifting isn't all bad.

I think maybe you were referring to re-gifting a white elephant type gift? There's a difference between re-gifting something you think the receiver will actually like/use even if you didn't vs re-gifting something because you just want to get rid of something and don't care if they like it or not. This makes me think of Old School where he kept trying to give away the bread maker. LOL.

Gisellerina · June 2013

A friend regifted me an amazing Christmas Tree ornament once. It's a camel. And I have a Christmas Tree that I only put camel ornaments on, so it was one of the most perfect gifts ever. The person who gave it to me thought it was hideously ugly, but knew I would love it. I think she ended up telling the person who gave it to her that she "decided to share it with a friend who is crazy about camels." No idea how the original giver felt about the regift. Hopefully not offended or hurt.

As to why I still think food is a horrible gift, I mostly think this because of allergies/diabetes/thyroid/weight loss diets/eating disorders/gluten/vegetarian/vegan/etc. Maybe I just know a bunch of people with various food-related health issues and picky eaters, but although the thought would be appreciated, the actual food items would not. (I also feel the same way about scented candles/lotions/etc - horrible gift ideas. Not because there's something inherently wrong with the item, but because of the potential allergy/health problems to the recipient and/or their loved ones.)

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