No bride needs to hear this a month before the wedding....

TKzilla · June 2013

Jen4948 said:

FierceFemme said:

Fat is not shameful. People are sometimes assholes. There is no reason to run away sobbing, or act as though she has just killed your puppy.
YES, that woman was an asshole and has no business commenting or asking about any changes that happen with anyone's body. But, acting as though calling you out on a perceived pregnancy or fatness is the worst possible thing someone can say to you, is just perpetuating the fuckedupedness that being fat should be something you should be ashamed of, and you should run away crying.
here's are some appropriate answers to someone being an asshole and asking body questions:
I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat.
I'm not pregnant.
<blank stare>
Are you really asking me that?
Please don't make comments about my body. It's rude and inappropriate.

Also, "None of your business. Don't ask me again."

Also "Nope, not pregnant. Are you gonna eat that piece of cake?" Damn I want some cake.

crunchymamaof2 · June 2013

*red face* add me to the list to. A lady at a playgroup asked me when I was due when I was desperately trying to get pregnant. And then an older lady asked me if I was having twins when out to dinner with FI and a couple we're friends with.

That is just one of those questions you never ask, even if the kid is crowing for Christ's sake. You just.dont.do.it.

I still think you're going to look amazing! Don't let her moronic comment make you feel any less!

Blue_Bird · June 2013

Wow. Who does that?!

Dreamergirl8812 · June 2013

If someone said that to me I would look them straight in the eye and say "What the hell is wrong with you?"

rgronke · June 2013

Sadly I've gotten that before and my son is 8, unfortunately all my weight goes straight to my belly and I look about 6-9 months pregnant depending on my stress level. I've gotten to the point that when people say anything I answer no I'm just fat but thank you for pointing out my biggest insecurity. Yes I am that mean, bc thats just ridiculous. You handled it like a champ and you will look amazing in your dress. Of all the things that I thought would be the hardest, the dress shopping actually turned out to be the easiest. Another poster was right, a wedding dress truly does magic in making you look like the most beautiful girl in the room and strips away all the crap we are insecure about. You'll be amazing!

hockey20 · June 2013

I've been asked this FOUR times, at work! (oh yes, I said at work, that's right). Because I was at work, of course, I had no recourse. However, if I was able to say anything I'd make sure the person asking felt sufficiently shamed for their obtuse behaviour, it's just not polite.

As others have said, however, you will be gorgeous. Once you find that right dress, wedding dresses have a habit of just being really flattering.

gailpete · June 2013

I'm sorry this happened to you. If only you had said "Are you asking because you assume the only reason I'm getting married is because I'm pregnant, or is it because you think I look fat?"

You will be beautiful on your wedding day and your FI will only have eyes for you. Don't worry about what anyone else says.

nextrightthing · June 2013

Sorry that happened. I've been there. It hurts!!!!!! I have banned most empire waist styles for this reason.

You will be a beautiful bride!

sarabopp · June 2013

Ugh! I do think that every woman has a story like this... It sucks!

I've been feeling like crap lately and pretty sick. I've been trucking along at work, looking like a zombie. I can't drink due to medication and mentioned not drinking to a co-worker. Another person overheard and thought that I'm abstaining from alcohol due to a pregnancy. She told a bunch of people at work that I am expecting and keep getting little grins and words of encouragement that my "sickness" is for a good reason! It's embarrassing to keep telling people that I'm not pregnant. One person even told me that my belly has been looking larger than usual. Um, thanks?!

Belle0720 · June 2013

Sorry this happened to you, people can be so ridiculous sometimes. Don't feel too bad about it though because I think it happens to a lot of women.

The weekend after FI and I got engaged it was his birthday and big group of us went to Tahoe to celebrate. FI's cousin (and best man) asked me one night, "So tell me the truh, are you pregnant?". It made me so incredibly mad. I definitely hadn't gained weight so to me it felt like he was saying that the only reason FI would proposed was if I was pregnant. We were all drinking that weekend and already talking about planning the wedding for a year and a half out, so we were obviously not planning a shotgun wedding. Ugh, still makes me mad thinking about it.

PhoneCardLady · June 2013

My mom had last seen my aunt's SIL when she was pregnant. The next time she saw her, she asked when the baby was due. The SIL said the baby was born five months ago....

SewInLoveWithDMB · June 2013

Ah! What a jerk. Sorry this happened to you!

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