Y'all know my ups and downs with my ILs. MIL and stepFIL are nice people but frustrating.
Every year they come to visit. Usually they come in September. This year we have our big vacation. Because we were burning up airline miles, points, etc. we were limited on our dates. So we booked middle of September, and this was last year in October. A couple of months ago, they mention they'd like to come visit. DH tells them then that we'll be gone for 9 days in September so that probably isn't a good time if they want to see us. SIL tells them this as well. And guess what- they apparently can't wait a few weeks so they're coming while we're gone.
Here's why it pisses me off. They always come in September, but they always make sure to make it for nephew's birthday. They have never been in town for any other grandkids birthday party. Nephew is royally spoiled by his other grandma so I'm pretty sure MIL doesn't even register to him (actually nephew and niece don't give 2 fvcks about MIL and stepFIL because they see them once a year).
Now DH wants to go visit them next year in April. I know why- it's mostly because his grandpa who lives nearby is not doing well. He wants to make sure he and DS spend time with him. He wants me to come with new baby (new baby will be about 5 months). I will have just enough airline miles for us to use. But I feel like why should we make the effort to see them when they won't do the same for us?