So to start off, my MOH is a good friend of mine who also dated my brother (I know bad combo but regardless) I choose her to be my MOH knowing that anything could happen with her and my brother, and of course they broke up and it was a messy one but through the entire thing I told them both I am there for both of them and whatever happens with their relationship is between them and I have my separate relationships with them separately. Well just the week of my bachelorette party, the plan was to go to the beach but weather was not on our side, so a few days before my MOH asked me what else I would like to do and gave me some options. I chose the one i would like best. The NIGHT before my MOH begins to ask me what I want to do and times and due to working in a teenage girl residential placement, my job is VERY stressful, and I was not really in the mood to start discussing what I was to be doing on my bachelorette day. The MORNING of, there was a lot of attacking of me due to my other maids and how they were treating my MOH but really in reality my MOH was just mis reading ALL of the things that were being said to her. So due to the stress of work and wedding, I stated I didn't want to have my bachlorette at all because everyone is missing the point of the day and worrying about themselves. my MOH began to tell me how much money she spent and time on my shower and my bachlorette and she has received no thanks but that she is being selfish and if I don't want to go with the rest of the night plans to let her know so she can cancel the reservations and let everyone know that I cancelled it. I was very upset but her response. So the question is, should I be doing something above and beyond to thank her for everything that she has done? or is it kind of, comes with the territory that when you accept such a position you know what it entitles?