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Ajuliana · July 2013

OP, I definitely feel you... in a way. Both my SIL and my FIs SIL are TTC right now, which could mean we have anywhere from two new babies to two very pregnant women to two barely pregnant women in our WP. As much as in my head I think they should stop trying for a window so as not to miss our wedding, I know that that's just not how it works in a family or life.

Just be happy for them, and hopefully the baby will come a week early or a week late (not some crazy unhealthy difference from their due date) so that everyone can celebrate both events together. If not, I'm sure it will all work out wonderfully.

ZeroOrchestra · July 2013

HuckSC said:
The story gets told pretty often in my family about how my grandmother cried for days when she found out she was pregnant with my mother.

It is a mistake to have a one night stand and get pregnant. It is an accident when the condom breaks.

Wtf. Seriously?

What if the condom broke during a one night stand? What is it then?

ZeroOrchestra · July 2013

tarratall said:
Let's logic this out. Usually they don't let the family back there when you deliver; one, maybe two people is the max. So, given that information, your FSIL and her partner/FI would be the only ones able to witness the delivery and probably the only ones missing.

Baby visits are special but could be worked around a wedding ceremony. Of course they will want to go ASAP but the hospital that I looked at only allowed visitors between 8am and 6pm. Only one visitor could stay back there. If your wedding was in the evening there's probably very little chance that your wedding would be affected unless FSIL's life was on the line. If someone's child's life were at stake, I hope you would not hold missing your wedding against them.

While you are in labor, most places that I am aware of will allow whoever you want. During the actual delivery, while you are pushing, they limit the people in the room. Every facility has different regulations.

FWIW, my parents and MIL were in the waiting room overnight during our labor and delivery. They just wanted to be there.

radleyboo · July 2013

When I was in labor and delivering, I told my family specifically that we would call them after the baby had arrived and all of the excitement had died down. I only had my sister and exH in the room, any more people than that would have driven me BSC. It also gave us a little bit of time to spend with the babies before everyone came to see/hold them. Family came up to see us a few hours after the babies were born, and that was just fine with me. Everyone is different, though. I just didn't want a frigging audience.

FWIW, if she does go into labor and delivers on the wedding day, who's to say people couldn't stop by to see them quickly then return to the wedding reception? Regardless of what happens, these are both happy and exciting events. Generally mom and baby spend a couple of days in the hospital anyhow, providing lots of time to get the new baby visits in. It will all be fine.

EDIT: spelling.

ashleyep · July 2013

StageManager14 said:

Let's logic this out. Usually they don't let the family back there when you deliver; one, maybe two people is the max. So, given that information, your FSIL and her partner/FI would be the only ones able to witness the delivery and probably the only ones missing. Baby visits are special but could be worked around a wedding ceremony. Of course they will want to go ASAP but the hospital that I looked at only allowed visitors between 8am and 6pm. Only one visitor could stay back there. If your wedding was in the evening there's probably very little chance that your wedding would be affected unless FSIL's life was on the line. If someone's child's life were at stake, I hope you would not hold missing your wedding against them.
While you are in labor, most places that I am aware of will allow whoever you want. During the actual delivery, while you are pushing, they limit the people in the room. Every facility has different regulations. FWIW, my parents and MIL were in the waiting room overnight during our labor and delivery. They just wanted to be there.
Yep, in H's family having a baby is big deal. Everyone is at the hospital. They rotate who is in the room (3 or 4 at a time) up until delivery begins. I actually told H when our most recent niece was born "this won't happen if we have a kid." Now, I'm sure if SIL had gone into labor the day of our wedding, most would have attended our ceremony and the beginning of the reception before leaving, but FIL would have missed it to be at the hospital with her.

I don't really mind having some of my family there, but I really don't think I'd want my MIL there. She can come afterwards, but I don't want here there when I'm having contractions and in pain.

RamonaFlowers · July 2013

I say all the time that I don't want to even tell anyone that I'm pregnant until after the baby is born, just because I don't want everybody all up in my grill for 9 months.

I'm only half joking when I say that.

If we ever have kids, there's no way I'm accepting visitors until the delivery is over, and I've had a nap and a chance to freshen up a bit.

Peledreamsofrain · July 2013

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