My mom passed away a couple of years ago. I know I should invite her side of the family, I just don't know which family to invite though. There are some family members that I haven't seen since her funeral. Also, she came from a family of 5, and most of them don't talk to each other. There was a huge family fight when my grandma passed years ago, and most of them haven't spoke since then (My mom did still talk to everyone because she didn't want to be involved in the fighting). I don't know who to invite. I was thinking of inviting all my aunts and my uncle, but letting them know I did so, so they can opt not to come if they can't get past their fighting on my big day. I should add that my aunts and uncles all have grown children who have children. (My family is awkwardly spaced in age!) Inviting everyone put my side of the guest list up to around 75 or so people.
Re: Family fights, who to invite?
Also, remember that if you invite the aunt/uncles, you do not have to invite their grown children and grandchildren.
It doesn't sound like you are very close with this side of the family, so I would probably not invite them. But this is a decision you need to make for yourself, in the end.
This is MY advice..from experience. Invite who you want, screw who they get along with because you never know who will show up..
I worreid alot about this at my wedding, so did DH. We purposely did NOT invite people because they had conflicts with those we DID invite. In the end, those we chose to invite (instead of the "enemies" )ended up canceling for wedding and I ended up looking like a jerk for those I excluded..
Invite who YOU want, not who other people tell you to invite/not invite..unless THEY are paying.