so Im getting married on January 4, 2014. I have an idea on how i want everything to be however i am being very laid back as well. so i have two issues. One is i have some family wont come to the wedding due to major conflicts with my mom and vice versa. so i have laid the ground rules for all parties involved just so they will uderstand how they should be civil for me and not acting like children and more like adults. recently today, my mother calls me, trying to play guilt trip on me. She then states how she found a photographer for almost 3 grand and says she will try to help pay. The other is how do i make both sides understand this is not about them. I know I cant make everyone happy nor do i care but i dont all of my family to attend because im close to everyone in some way shap of another. since its only my side of the family acting up, I know i need to make them cooperate but losing patience with mom very quickly