So I need some advice. I had originally decided I would have a Matron & Maid of Honor, which in theory sounded excellent. Two close friends sharing the duties of MOH. The Matron would be the first in line, and is my closest friend, the Maid also being a close friend, but I had wanted both MOHs to split the duties so they would have to devote less time, money, and not be as stressed. Now the Matron is having to foot all of the bill, do all of the work, and the Maid is MIA!! She hasn't even really spoken to me. The Matron has gone completely above and beyond, and I'm frustrated with the Maid, because she calls me her best friend, yet she's not being supportive at all. I had already had one talk with her when she wasn't getting involved, to find out what was going on, and she told me she had felt excluded and like the other MOH didn't need help at all. I stressed to her that no feelings were being hurt intentionally, and that the MOH would love to have help, she just needed to offer it, because the MOH was afraid to ask for help from anyone. She said she was going to get involved now that she knew help was needed, and felt better now that I'd talked to both MOH's to give them perspective of where each other are coming from. It's been several weeks, and she has never done what she said she would do, and not even talked to me, besides to talk about herself, and her trips. I am to the point now where I don't think having asked her to be my MOH was a good idea, and I think she should just be a regular Bridesmaid. How do you tactfully handle this?