We had limited our guest list to 60 people including the bridal party, I feel like only 3040 people were really there though and I didn't know until I walked down the aisle. Do we call the people and ask what happened? Just call ask if they want pictures to see if they have a reason? Or suck it up and say nothing?
Re: No Shows are Normal?
But, any of our local friends/relatives who were no-shows are not getting contacted.
It's tough to not feel offended, but we're just moving on the best we can!
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Yes, unfortunately this is common.
[QUOTE]I wouldn't say anything or offer pictures. It's quite a bit of no shows though, makes me wonder what went wrong?
Posted by Cortney1982[/QUOTE]
Thats what I was thinking, it seems like alot of no shows to me but we didn't ever get an official count since we forgot to get a guestbook and never sat and counted who was there. We invited alot more than 60 because we knew people wouldn't be able to come (far distances like Alaska and Hawaii) but had 50 people rsvp yes outside of the wedding party or a few maybe's. Looking at it maybe there really were around 40 people there so there might not have been as many no shows as I think, but I guess we will never know for sure. Thanks for the advice, I'll just leave it as is with the people who didn't show. We still had a blast anyway!
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: No Shows are Normal? : Thats what I was thinking, it seems like alot of no shows to me but we didn't ever get an official count since we forgot to get a guestbook and never sat and counted who was there. We invited alot more than 60 because we knew people wouldn't be able to come (far distances like Alaska and Hawaii) but had 50 people rsvp yes outside of the wedding party or a few maybe's. Looking at it maybe there really were around 40 people there so there might not have been as many no shows as I think, but I guess we will never know for sure. Thanks for the advice, I'll just leave it as is with the people who didn't show. We still had a blast anyway!
Posted by soontobespitzer[/QUOTE]
<span style="font-size:9pt;font-family:Verdana, sans-serif;color:black;">You can’t always go by the guestbook because not everyone signs them. My parents didn’t even sign ours, although I know for sure they were there…haha. With a smaller guest list like yours, I’m kind of confused on how you don’t know if someone was there. We only had 10 tables, so when we went around to say thank you to everyone, it was pretty easy to spot the gaps of people & see who didn’t come. If your guest list was like 200+, then I can totally see how hard it would be to spot the missing people. </span>
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5 Did not give us a reason before or after. I don't think you should call them. Just ignore them. That's what I am doing.
In my opinion, their lack of concern or reaching out to us after the fact shows us the real depth of the "relationship" we have with these people...
I've been hearing that no shows are normal, but I could not even imagine just not showing up for a wedding I RSVP'd for. It seems like such a slap in the face to the host of the wedding. You still have to pay for them because they were part of the final head count, right? If I had to miss due to unforeseen and late-occurring circumstances like illness or a family emergency, I would absolutely make contact myself to tell the host what happened. If it was not possible to give notice, they would definitely hear from me within days with an explanation and apology. No way would I just not show up with no explanation or wait until the bride contacted me.
Who does this????
I am interested to see what no shows we get.
We had two couples no-show, and both gave explanations. One actually showed up to church the next day accidentally. both actually sent a gift...though, I hear that is rare.